> the name of the game is to get the emotions on your side. In order to do this, you need to recognize your own emotional needs. You might say something like:

> the name of the game is to get the emotions on your side. In order to do this, you need to recognize your own emotional needs. You might say something like: “to move forward here, I need to trust that we are both willing to see reality clearly and use solid reasoning to make wise decisions even if those decisions are uncomfortable to think about. When I hear you say X, that I notice that it risks {name of fallacy} and I would not feel responsible unless I help us avoid stumbling into that. Could you please help me by clarifying what you mean here?” This imposes some discomfort on you by clearly revealing needs for responsibility and trustworthiness… but it also gives the other person a clear choice: A. Re-think what they’ve said and either follow your lead in avoiding the fallacy or asking you for help understanding. B. Explicitly deny your need to use logic to make responsible choices. And you can decide how much to trust the other person when the responsibility they have for making that choice wisely is made clear to them.