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While that is an absolute possibility, the statistics give that outcome a much lesser chance than fucking up the children in one way or another. Nice to hear it

While that is an absolute possibility, the statistics give that outcome a much lesser chance than fucking up the children in one way or another. Nice to hear it went for the better for you! :) So far, we manage quite well - although my children obviously know something's wrong with me and we talked about my depression symptoms (without telling them the reason), we manage to keep our kids out of our problems.

tartoran 4y ago
Your story is quite messed up, your partner is responsible for ruining your trust and your wellbeing. And it seems to me that this one time slip up for 6 months is something that is no accident but says something fundamental about your partner. Not sure what you could do now and you’re right about being depressed about it. But life throws you a curveball and things may end up in a totally different unexpected place and it could totally turn out for the better, you never know. Also, learn to be a bit selfish and love yourself some more.
- CalRobert 4y ago
  Everyone's story is different. What op is doing might be right for op. Or maybe not. But as the child of divorcees whose divorce massively improved my relationship with both of them I thought it might be helpful perspective.
  - tartoran 4y ago
    Sure, I hear you but not all cases of divorcees end up well for the children. When both parents end up fullfilled post marriage and manage to move over the financial hurdles the kids are better off with separated/divorced but happy parents, however that’s not always the case. And nowadays a divorce can severely handicap one of the parents in a financial way so not divorcing has quite a lot of incentive. Of course being miserable in the marriage just for the sake of the kids probably doesn’t end up too well either, ideally the best outcome is to move on with life.

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While that is an absolute possibility, the statistics give that outcome a much lesser chance than fucking up the children in one way or another. Nice to hear it

by anonymous_goat 4y ago

tartoran 4y ago
Your story is quite messed up, your partner is responsible for ruining your trust and your wellbeing. And it seems to me that this one time slip up for 6 months is something that is no accident but says something fundamental about your partner. Not sure what you could do now and you’re right about being depressed about it. But life throws you a curveball and things may end up in a totally different unexpected place and it could totally turn out for the better, you never know. Also, learn to be a bit selfish and love yourself some more.
- CalRobert 4y ago
  Everyone's story is different. What op is doing might be right for op. Or maybe not. But as the child of divorcees whose divorce massively improved my relationship with both of them I thought it might be helpful perspective.
  - tartoran 4y ago
    Sure, I hear you but not all cases of divorcees end up well for the children. When both parents end up fullfilled post marriage and manage to move over the financial hurdles the kids are better off with separated/divorced but happy parents, however that’s not always the case. And nowadays a divorce can severely handicap one of the parents in a financial way so not divorcing has quite a lot of incentive. Of course being miserable in the marriage just for the sake of the kids probably doesn’t end up too well either, ideally the best outcome is to move on with life.