Right - walking into a 1:1 and dumping this on the table is a recipe for disaster. You don't need to treat your manager as your friend, but treating them with r

Right - walking into a 1:1 and dumping this on the table is a recipe for disaster. You don't need to treat your manager as your friend, but treating them with respect is a prerequisite for this going well. Here's two possible conversations: a) "I'm unhappy here with my compensation and I think I deserve a promotion. I went and interviewed with <insert company name here> and they've offered me $X, as a <TITLE> and I'm going to take it." b) "The last few times we spoke I told you that I thought I was deserving of a promotion. Since last month's meeting, I was contacted by a recruiter from <insert company name here>, and they've made me an offer for $X as a <TITLE>. I think I can keep providing value here as <TITLE> and I'd like you to help me make that happen". As a manager, I would probably tell a) to take it, and try to promote b)