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You know what the strongest form of infosec is, in this domain? Not having an affair. It's been said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. I say a
by JetAlone 4y ago
You know what the strongest form of infosec is, in this domain?
Not having an affair.
It's been said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. I say a human being needs an affair like a bug needs a zapper racket.
- syrrim 4y agoTheir tagline - "life is short, have an affair" - is fairly compelling. You have one life, and romance is one of the great human experiences. Many people don't have the opportunity to experience that in their current relationship, while still having good reason to remain in that relationship.
- collegeburner 4y agoit doesn't matter. if they arent happy then it's their job to go quit the existing one or even if the spouse wants to kinda stay together for kids make it clear they separating as a romantic couple. sneaking behind a spouses back is shitty.
- JetAlone 4y agoYou have no actually good reason to remain in your relationship if you're a lying adulterer. You only have evil, selfish reasons.
- pas 4y agoKids is a popular excuse. See also fucked up divorce laws, etc. See also the good intentions pavement system so well known on roads leading to hell.
- JetAlone 4y agoKid's'd be better off with a repressed parent, or an impoverished deserter parent, than a cheater. Cheating kills the trust in both parents, because the cheater becomes a disgusting liar and the one cheated on will likely be seen as too weak or otherwise unfitting, to be a good role model. Either way the child will doubt the value of the parents they even came from. That really leads to hell, for the whole family.
- NoSorryCannot 4y agoQuite a yarn you're spinning. But can it be even more reductive and clichéd?
- headsoup 4y agoI sense a religious undertone... The type that would force the sanctity of marriage at all costs to avoid 'sin' and save face with God. Maybe also with some warped victim blaming and sexism thrown in for good measure, topped with a generous helping of sanctimony. Maybe...
- JetAlone 4y agoYeah, yeah, "Up yours woke religious moralists. We'll see who condemns who."
- collegeburner 4y agothere's plenty of couples that are amicably separated and take care of their kids fine, even some who still share a house (though not many tbh). besides it's still their fault for having kids without being sure they can handle the comittment then not being willing to stick with it.
- pas 4y ago> without being sure they can handle the comittment then not being willing to stick with it. that bar is so high, I applaud anyone who can even comprehend it.
- denton-scratch 4y agoEveryone's different, and every relationship is different. Sometimes people get trapped, either by money or laws or something else. It's human nature to make judgements about other peoples' relationships, but unless you're in a relationship it can be hard to see the forces at work.That's often true even if it's your own relationship.
- refurb 4y ago
- peteradio 4y ago> that 12 year old was coming into me Phrasing is wrong here in a bad way.
- refurb 4y agoGo watch some of the police interviews of pedophiles. That’s what they say. But again, people come up with excuses all the time for things they know are wrong. Doesn’t change the fact that those things are wrong.
- bumby 4y agoI think they were referring to the typo “into” vs “onto” which changes the meaning of the sentence dramatically
- civilized 4y agoOkay, nuance et cetera, but can cheaters have the basic human decency to recognize that they're making a choice which is harmful to their family in order to benefit themselves? Or is that asking too much self-awareness?
- denton-scratch 4y agoReally, it might not be harmful to their families, beyond harm that's already happened. Marriages are complicated. For example, some marriages are essentially financial arrangements, maintained by both parties despite romantic betrayal. Some marriages start as romatic arrangements, but morph into marriages of convenience, or are maintained "for the sake of the kids". And sticking with a broken marriage "for the sake of the kids" isn't always the wrong thing to do. It depends.
- RedShift1 4y agoLol, I can't even find someone to fall in love with and here's this website :-(
- OrangeMonkey 4y agoYou have the capacity to love and be loved man. I suggest changing where you are looking for people, hanging out, or just doing new things. If the places you are looking have nothing for you, change where you are looking. You got this man.
- awicz 4y agoThis is sound advice.
- collegeburner 4y agotheres places u can find ppl. online dating aint that great, heres some that i seen work: * religious organization * hobbys * service (lots of hot young chicks volunteer at animal shelters) and tbh even if u dont find a girl right away you'll still get smth from all of those. keep ur head up king.
- Cd00d 4y agoI wonder what the overlap of people is that: 1) are in a tizzy over promiscuity among adults, 2) advocate for organized religion, and 3) target 'hot young chicks'. You are a unique individual, I think. That said, maybe start thinking of women as human beings.
- collegeburner 4y agolmao 1. i'm not. it rly doesn't bother me except for the tiny group that will go sleep with like 5 or 6 ppl in a short period and causes problems. idgaf what ppl do otherwise just saying its a public health problem. 2. i'm not a huge advocate of organized religion im just saying it's a good place to meet potential partners and i seen it work. 3. i'm young so uhh yeah? i like hot ppl like almost everybody else and i like women so uhh there's why i guess. not "targeting" but that's who i like to date lol. just bc there's a public health problem with ppl hooking up with like 5 ppl in a weekend doesn't mean i got anything against dating. > You are a unique individual thx bro > start thinking of women as human beings? uhh what? idk how i gave the wrong idea about this.
- Planktonne 4y agoWhen people talk about romance being one of the great human experiences, they don't tend to mean online hook-up sites, particularly not one focused on cheating. The 'great human experience' bit isn't just about the physical side of things.
- JetAlone 4y agoI've heard that a lot of the time men are cheating to get sex, and women are cheating for the emotional romantic side of things. I think the GP is aimed primarily with sympathy for the vast minority of female users, and perhaps an uncharacteristically more emotional subgroup of male users, implicitly baked in.
- FullStackAda 4y agoMore like "life is short have an antibiotic resistant Chlamydia".
- collegeburner 4y ago
- gambiting 4y agoWait, what? What kind of insane suggestion is that? No one actively wants to catch a disease. And the health system should help not dispense moral judgement. Otherwise what I'm going to immediately ask is why provide help for people who smoke? Who drink? Who get into an accident when cycling or paragliding? Surely they were all just asking for it! >>or at least make them pay for inpatient treatment so they can't do half the course and stop I don't see how that follows.
- collegeburner 4y ago
- hiptobecubic 4y agoSmoking is costing us more than aids and monkeypox, I'm sure.
- collegeburner 4y agoyeah thats why i said we shouldn't be paying for them neither and working on social pressures against that behavior. but some how condemning recklessly promiscuous behavior isn't ok b because it's not pc or whatever.
- gambiting 4y ago>>some how condemning recklessly promiscuous behavior isn't ok b because it's not pc or whatever. It's not about being PC you crumpet, it's about having a shred of human empathy. You can practice safe sex and still get any of those diseases, having them is not a proof you weren't careful or that you were taking unnecessary risks.
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- collegeburner 4y agobased. cheating on a spouse is shitty and degenerate. if u wanna go hook up have the balls to dump ur wife first and actually pay the alimony n shit involved instead of doing that. shitty behavior from shitty ppl.
- JetAlone 4y agoYep. ITT: Man-hoes mad.
- lallysingh 4y agoI don't get this, there are a lot of other ways to take risks to have fun. Like motorsport or adventure travel. Stuff that you can brag about after, which is way better than the pressure of keeping a secret.
- 1270018080 4y agoSome people like the pressure of keeping a secret.
- RajT88 4y agoSome people also like bragging about affairs. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
- fho 4y agoI just yesterday skimmed the documentation for statsmodels weighted generalized linear models and they use data from an affair study there: https://www.statsmodels.org/devel/examples/notebooks/generated/glm_weights.html https://www.statsmodels.org/devel/examples/notebooks/generat... I have not looked at the original study, but from what I gather from the results basically nobody is having an affair (the median for time spend in an affair is still 0, the 3/4 quantile is still only 0.48 (time units) and the maximum is 57.60 (time units)). I am not sure what "time units" is ... it is probably in the original paper, but I did not bother to look that up. Even if it is years, that would mean that 75% of the people spend less than half a year in an affair over their lifetime. Once married this drops significantly and reduces further over the years of marriage.
- conductr 4y agoI think my wife has a rather binary view on affairs. Doesn’t need to be long, sustained, or repetitive. I’d wager many wives would be livid just by the presence of an account on AM even if no physical cheating occurs. Just the fact it was sought out or investigate is going to cause a riff in the relationship. Also if the models show nobody is cheating, the data should be considered suspicious. Maybe the word “affair” is an issue. It insinuates a long term situation when really a lot of this falls under hookups/prostitution.
- fho 4y ago> Also if the models show nobody is cheating, the data should be considered suspicious. Possible ... when the cost of getting caught is high, even if it is just a perceived risk, I would expect that people "cheat" on those questionnaires.
- conductr 4y agoExactly. I wouldn’t trust this data to be truthful to begin. We’re talking about the “worlds oldest profession”, I’d need proof of that. Even a place like Saudi has a known practice and general understanding that sinning goes down in Bahrain. The traffic on the bridge is all the evidence I needed to see in order to believe that.
- paulryanrogers 4y agoIs someone even in the domain if they aren't seeking or having an affair? The advice comes off as "best way to avoid being robbed is to never have anything of value".
- alvah 4y ago"Just don't have an affair". Righto, that'll fix it, because nobody who has an affair currently knows it's wrong /sarc