IMO this can go a bit more nuanced for better leverage than just general-ambition-leverage. It's also the type & direction of ambition that matters, in combina

IMO this can go a bit more nuanced for better leverage than just general-ambition-leverage. It's also the type & direction of ambition that matters, in combination with the child's personal direction of ambition x scaling-influence of the parent's ambition-direction. A good example of direction would be inward vs. outward. Go make a splash in society! Just DO it!!! Outward-focused, a little bit more shallow at times because it's action & change that matters. vs. Look, it feels great to really go to work on yourself, become somebody you can be proud of based on how you respond to what life throws AT you. Inward-focused, a little bit more creepy at times because it's depth and development that matters. Object focus vs. subject focus. Then modify each by various aspects. Creativity, social roles, capacity for organization, health. So just using that as an example, you have 8 types of ambition to refer to. Parents will then be caught generally focusing on one of those 8 types more than others IMO. It is usually their personal area of focus and strength. If they don't see anything worrying in that ONE area they will generally not care too much--the kid will be alright in their eyes. When you meet people who are really similar to you in terms of strengths and gifts, you tend to breeze right by them, without noticing much. (Camera then switches to a different household, where parents scream at a kid who's got it all backwards, in their mind)