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So it sounds like you don't have a house problem, you have a neighbor problem. Or rather, you have a community problem where you and your neighbors have not ass

by uoaei 4y ago

So it sounds like you don't have a house problem, you have a neighbor problem. Or rather, you have a community problem where you and your neighbors have not assembled into a good-faith community. If you don't feel comfortable knocking on neighbors' doors and asking them to be quieter, you have three options: make friends, move out, or deal with your emotional reaction. But perhaps more importantly, the problem of nosy or overbearing neighbors doesn't go away when you move into a single family home, it gets strengthened and bureaucratized into what's commonly known as an HOA. I personally would rather have close neighbors that I have the opportunity to make personal relationships with, versus the dispersed set of homeowners over a much larger area who get to fine me if they don't agree with how I decorate "my" house. In my experience the tyranny of HOAs vastly outstrips any conflicts that may arise between apartment neighbors, but then again I try my best to treat the people with whom I share my space with respect instead of contempt.

frumper 4y ago
Most homes aren't in an HOA. Turns out you can have the best of both worlds. Not hearing a neighbor walk around on the floor above you, and you can invite your single family home neighbors over to the bbq pool party. Bonus, you can actually have a pool and bbq if you have a backyard. Sounds pretty good to me.
pandaman 4y ago
It may depend on the area but SFH is not necessarily associated with a HOA for one. Also, I am confused as to how HOA can interfere with one's life to a higher degree than sharing walls. In my understanding HOAs deal with exterior and common areas, they don't have to do with anything inside. In an apartment you have the same with regards of common areas and the exterior, except you don't have any say at all and you have noises and smells coming from the neighbors. So even if you have a HOA that is as restrictive as a landlord, you are still ahead as you can do whatever you want inside, unlike in an apartment.

by uoaei 4y ago

frumper 4y ago

Most homes aren't in an HOA. Turns out you can have the best of both worlds. Not hearing a neighbor walk around on the floor above you, and you can invite your single family home neighbors over to the bbq pool party. Bonus, you can actually have a pool and bbq if you have a backyard. Sounds pretty good to me.

pandaman 4y ago

It may depend on the area but SFH is not necessarily associated with a HOA for one. Also, I am confused as to how HOA can interfere with one's life to a higher degree than sharing walls. In my understanding HOAs deal with exterior and common areas, they don't have to do with anything inside. In an apartment you have the same with regards of common areas and the exterior, except you don't have any say at all and you have noises and smells coming from the neighbors. So even if you have a HOA that is as restrictive as a landlord, you are still ahead as you can do whatever you want inside, unlike in an apartment.