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Summary: Focus first on figuring out the common goal that you are both trying to achieve. From there you can try to discuss the differences in approaches to tha
by gregwebs 4y ago
Summary: Focus first on figuring out the common goal that you are both trying to achieve. From there you can try to discuss the differences in approaches to that goal that you have come up with and steel man the other side.
This seems like a great approach to gain a better understanding of the big picture context, avoid arguing, and have a productive discussion.
What is missing from this essay for me is the acknowledgement that people often do want different things because they do have different values. I think this approach though would make it easier to recognize differences in values and separate out values from facts.
- rendall 4y agoI don't think this is a good summary. My understanding of the idea is to steel-man the opponent's argument and then also add a codicil that describes what compassionate values they have that lead them to that point of view.
- gregwebs 4y agoYes, I agree your summary is more accurate of what is written in the article. I think the emphasis of mine is an improvement on what is suggested here. Shifting from arguing towards conversation produces better outcomes in my experience.