That is one lesson I've learned. Keep your mouth shut around doctors, counselors, therapists, teachers, and daycare workers. Treat them politely, professional

That is one lesson I've learned. Keep your mouth shut around doctors, counselors, therapists, teachers, and daycare workers. Treat them politely, professionally, and keep them at a distance and never give them details about your family. Gently coach your children to do the same, but not explicitly. It's horrible, but it's too large of a risk to do anything else, regardless of how actually pleasant and healthy your families environment may be. Assume that every fact you give any of them about your children will be misunderstood, interpreted as uncharitably as possible, taken out of context, permanently recorded, and distributed to hostile strangers to judge.