Yeah when it comes to dating, whether online or IRL, I think standing out (in a way that’s true to yourself)is generally a higher “return” for the same effort v

Yeah when it comes to dating, whether online or IRL, I think standing out (in a way that’s true to yourself)is generally a higher “return” for the same effort vs “standing above”. Getting a Mohawk may decrease your potential dating pool by a lot, but also the few who see that as a symbol of compatibility will be far more likely to push harder to get a relationship with you. Whereas competing to be the most classically eligible bachelor wins you the most dates if you can be in the rarefied percentiles…but there’s a lot of competition. And within the population of single men and single women, it does tend to be a “winners-take-most” situation. I think the real “social crime” though is people pretending to be who they are not in order to score dates. Then even if you get in a relationship it’s usually not what either party actually wanted. Somewhat similar advice for jobs, actually. (In terms of being true to yourself as much as possible to find a good employer match). Obviously with jobs you just need money sometimes and have to shove yourself through a square hole. Whereas few people actually need sex/dates. Sometimes it sure feels like it, and human companionship has huge effects on physical and mental well-being (good or bad). Yes, I’m sure it’s saved more than a few people from suicide or poor decisions. But there’s no way to categorize this as a need unless we invent a way to fulfill it, all of which previously have been inhumane. Maybe AI/robotic companionship will allow new options.