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If they rejected you based on your profile, you wouldn't know would you?

TuringNYC 4y ago
>> If they rejected you based on your profile, you wouldn't know would you? I guess you wouldn't know, but that seems like a good thing. As a cat-dad, i used to put my cat on some profile photos. Why even bother wasting time on someone who doesn't like cats and/or isn't open-minded to cats? Best to filter them out asap.
- oblak 4y ago
  Indeed. You'd have to be absolutely desperate. Long term, it makes zero sense to hide fundamentals such as affection for cats... or being a gamer. I know several guys who used to hide the fact they played games competitively. Granted that was almost 20 years ago but still.
- rossvor 4y ago
  But why do you assume that they don't like cats or even have an opinion on them? Most of first glance opinion forming is subconscious or near subconscious. It's less likely to be "I see a cat. I hate cats. Next" and more "Nah, not feeling it. Next".
  - TuringNYC 4y ago
    You might be right. One thing is for sure though, if they actually like cats I assume this would be a big attractor. To flip the script, i'd 10x prefer a profile photo if it had a cat, given I like cats. Of course the two cats would also need to get along. Double date I guess.
stephencanon 4y ago
You can only date a relatively small number of people. If a photo makes you less attractive to an average potential partner, but more attractive to potential partners who will actually be into you, that’s a huge lever for prequalifying. Which is to say you should basically always play up your quirks, not hide them.
- bogota 4y ago
  True but i think the comment you are responding too is commenting that “this was not my experience” can’t be known without more information. But to your point you only have so much time and it will likely help narrow down better long term partners if your profile is honest
- rvba 4y ago
  You can get zero matches on tinder - what allows to verify that some things dont work
- bluefirebrand 4y ago
  > Which is to say you should basically always play up your quirks, not hide them. Not going to lie, I don't think this matters if you're a dude. I found that almost no women I dated even read my profile. I was always up front about liking video games, board games, tabletop rpgs and the number of times date #1 would end on "You Like Dungeons and Dragons!? Ugh" was higher than not. I don't mean literally the date ended there, just that there was no chance of a second date after that point.
- joshspankit 4y ago
  > You can only date a relatively small number of people. I think more people need to understand this. Like, if you sell something used you don’t need to craft the “perfect” ad or get tonnes of exposure on it. You only need to sell one.

>> If they rejected you based on your profile, you wouldn't know would you? I guess you wouldn't know, but that seems like a good thing. As a cat-dad, i used to put my cat on some profile photos. Why even bother wasting time on someone who doesn't like cats and/or isn't open-minded to cats? Best to filter them out asap.

oblak 4y ago
Indeed. You'd have to be absolutely desperate. Long term, it makes zero sense to hide fundamentals such as affection for cats... or being a gamer. I know several guys who used to hide the fact they played games competitively. Granted that was almost 20 years ago but still.
rossvor 4y ago
But why do you assume that they don't like cats or even have an opinion on them? Most of first glance opinion forming is subconscious or near subconscious. It's less likely to be "I see a cat. I hate cats. Next" and more "Nah, not feeling it. Next".
- TuringNYC 4y ago
  You might be right. One thing is for sure though, if they actually like cats I assume this would be a big attractor. To flip the script, i'd 10x prefer a profile photo if it had a cat, given I like cats. Of course the two cats would also need to get along. Double date I guess.

stephencanon 4y ago

You can only date a relatively small number of people. If a photo makes you less attractive to an average potential partner, but more attractive to potential partners who will actually be into you, that’s a huge lever for prequalifying. Which is to say you should basically always play up your quirks, not hide them.

bogota 4y ago
True but i think the comment you are responding too is commenting that “this was not my experience” can’t be known without more information. But to your point you only have so much time and it will likely help narrow down better long term partners if your profile is honest
rvba 4y ago
You can get zero matches on tinder - what allows to verify that some things dont work
bluefirebrand 4y ago
> Which is to say you should basically always play up your quirks, not hide them. Not going to lie, I don't think this matters if you're a dude. I found that almost no women I dated even read my profile. I was always up front about liking video games, board games, tabletop rpgs and the number of times date #1 would end on "You Like Dungeons and Dragons!? Ugh" was higher than not. I don't mean literally the date ended there, just that there was no chance of a second date after that point.
joshspankit 4y ago
> You can only date a relatively small number of people. I think more people need to understand this. Like, if you sell something used you don’t need to craft the “perfect” ad or get tonnes of exposure on it. You only need to sell one.