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Remote works best for people who already have their lives stuffed with meaning and structure and don't need any help from the office on those fronts. OP might
by civilized 4y ago
Remote works best for people who already have their lives stuffed with meaning and structure and don't need any help from the office on those fronts.
OP might have resonated with me a decade ago, but now I have a wife and kids. I don't need office socialization to give my life meaning. I have my eight hours of work to do and then I have my life to get back to. I definitely don't need to lose two hours a day commuting.
There were days in my twenties where I had no idea what to do with the day, and on many of those days I ended up doing nothing. I haven't had a day like that for the greater part of a decade.
- sharms 4y agoAs someone with teenagers, they also need less and less supervision over time. I wouldn’t be overly confident given the data on social relationships and age.
- civilized 4y agoI have lots of ideas for how to use spare time. I hope when I get it that I'm better at utilizing it than I was in my twenties.
- gumby 4y agoI think the poor ability to use spare time is a feature, not a bug, when you are young.
- bicx 4y agoI agree with this, and I’m not sure exactly why. Maybe because life doesn’t have to be about optimization, but we make it that way as we get older, and in a way, we lose mental freedom.
- gumby 4y agoAlso when you are young you don't have enough experience to decide what you like and don't. So focus would be a premature optimization.
- jcpst 4y agoI agree with this. I think there would have been a much higher chance of failure if I was remote a decade ago. I look back and I don’t even know how commuting fit into my schedule. In between work obligations, wife, 3 kids (one in college), dogs, home maintenance, and musical aspirations, I have zero problems with getting my work done and getting back to my life. If you know what you’re doing, you can get all of your obligations done and then carry on with whatever. It normally doesn’t take me a full 40.
- avgDev 4y agoI have pretty good relationship with my boss. Some weeks I work 20-30 actual hours. Others, I will get on in the evening to fix things if we are having issues. My salary is decent but I would love to continue building my career, however, whenever I interview its so hard to gauge the actual work load. Devs often say "we work 40 hours a week"...
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- sabellito 4y agoI dislike remote work and have a full social life. What you think would be a good adjective to describe this opinion you just shared, that people who prefer in person work don't have their lives stuffed with meaning and structure?
- civilized 4y agoI didn't say that. Hopefully it's not necessary for me to go through a lecture on logic and standard English to explain why. "Pregnancy works best for people with uteruses" doesn't mean that pregnancy works fantastically for every person with a uterus. Unfortunately, on the internet, someone is always ready to take offense at a generalization, even if the generalization implies nothing worth taking offense about.