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+1 on the coworker thing, with traditional office jobs you’re friends with those guys and you’re close and then you or they change jobs and you never hear from

+1 on the coworker thing, with traditional office jobs you’re friends with those guys and you’re close and then you or they change jobs and you never hear from them again. All along it was just being in close proximity and seeing each other every day that kept you together. That’s not friendship.

s1artibartfast 4y ago
This ignores the large number of people who do find meaningful and Lasting friendships through their workplace, let alone spouses. The number one place where Americans met their married partners was at work It out ranks mutual friends, hobbies, and College.
- horns4lyfe 4y ago
  And the idea that you can’t make friends working remote dismisses the idea that you can actually make friends through shared interests in a remote environment instead of just proximity and mutual suffering.
  - s1artibartfast 4y ago
    Who said anything about suffering? I enjoy spending time with friends at work. Whether that is working together on a project, chatting, or having a beer on company time.
    - horns4lyfe 4y ago
      You do, but that’s not true of everyone’s experience, which is why giving people choice is the right way to go.
creakingstairs 4y ago
Like you said, most of the time, you don’t get actual friendships with co-workers. But, being in close proximity, and sharing experience makes it more probable to foster friendships. I had a lot of colleagues in my last job, and I have become friends with 2 of them. So the odds are not big. But it’s bigger than my current remote only job.
- projectazorian 4y ago
  That and you might meet non-coworkers through your work acquaintances. A lot of it is just expanding the opportunity space of potential social connections.
DoughnutHole 4y ago
Most people don't keep up contact with with most people they even meet socially if they move away. The ones you do are special, it's silly to discount everyone who you wouldn't keep in touch with minus proximity. Everyone's different and you do you, but from a social person's perspective the interactions in the moment have value and can bring joy whether or not I'm going to be friends with that person in 20 years.
tpmoney 4y ago
This seems overly dismissive of what friendship is or can be. Did you move away from your high school area? If so how many of your high school friends do you still keep in touch with? Are the people you don't people who were never your fiends? Or were they friends for a moment in time? Exes? Were you never friends if you don't keep in touch? College friends? Seriously there are many people in my life that were friends, but whom I have minimal or no contact with at all anymore. That doesn't mean they weren't friends. It might mean we aren't anymore but a relationship doesn't have to be permanent to be a relationship.
ianbutler 4y ago
I still talk to at least 2 coworkers from my previous job. Many people make friends from jobs.

s1artibartfast 4y ago

This ignores the large number of people who do find meaningful and Lasting friendships through their workplace, let alone spouses. The number one place where Americans met their married partners was at work It out ranks mutual friends, hobbies, and College.

horns4lyfe 4y ago
And the idea that you can’t make friends working remote dismisses the idea that you can actually make friends through shared interests in a remote environment instead of just proximity and mutual suffering.
- s1artibartfast 4y ago
  Who said anything about suffering? I enjoy spending time with friends at work. Whether that is working together on a project, chatting, or having a beer on company time.
  - horns4lyfe 4y ago
    You do, but that’s not true of everyone’s experience, which is why giving people choice is the right way to go.

creakingstairs 4y ago

Like you said, most of the time, you don’t get actual friendships with co-workers. But, being in close proximity, and sharing experience makes it more probable to foster friendships. I had a lot of colleagues in my last job, and I have become friends with 2 of them. So the odds are not big. But it’s bigger than my current remote only job.

projectazorian 4y ago
That and you might meet non-coworkers through your work acquaintances. A lot of it is just expanding the opportunity space of potential social connections.

DoughnutHole 4y ago

Most people don't keep up contact with with most people they even meet socially if they move away. The ones you do are special, it's silly to discount everyone who you wouldn't keep in touch with minus proximity. Everyone's different and you do you, but from a social person's perspective the interactions in the moment have value and can bring joy whether or not I'm going to be friends with that person in 20 years.

tpmoney 4y ago

This seems overly dismissive of what friendship is or can be. Did you move away from your high school area? If so how many of your high school friends do you still keep in touch with? Are the people you don't people who were never your fiends? Or were they friends for a moment in time? Exes? Were you never friends if you don't keep in touch? College friends? Seriously there are many people in my life that were friends, but whom I have minimal or no contact with at all anymore. That doesn't mean they weren't friends. It might mean we aren't anymore but a relationship doesn't have to be permanent to be a relationship.

ianbutler 4y ago

I still talk to at least 2 coworkers from my previous job. Many people make friends from jobs.