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I honestly would not expect NT to stop emphasising such things due to the existence of ND people. It reminds me of someone I spoke to who is upset that they wer

I honestly would not expect NT to stop emphasising such things due to the existence of ND people. It reminds me of someone I spoke to who is upset that they were criticised for sounding monotonous when presenting but it was due to their non native English accent. I’m sorry but it isn’t realistic to expect that people are going to rewire their entire social framework in order to cater to the social differences of a small minority. If you behave inappropriately people will call it out. That’s a tough problem for those who can’t distinguish when something is not appropriate

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larve 4y ago
That is pretty much the problem, right? "We are in the majority, so we won't really make an effort to accommodate you, too bad." Thankfully I actually see things changing. If you think it's fair to criticize people for their accents and then admonishing them for being upset, you might want to work on your empathy and social skills too.
- bowsamic 4y ago
  I think it’s as impossible to accept someone who breaks social barriers because they aren’t aware of them as it is to accept a murderer into the group. People are hard wired to dislike rude people. If your rudeness is caused by being ND that’s a shame but it is going to be almost impossible for people to ignore your rudeness anyway This is a fundamental difference between ableism and things like racism, often with the former there really are differences that cause problems. For example I have depression and I find it very difficult to work, but society does not accept that and nor do I expect it to. Similarly if you are autistic and take arguments too far because you think you are right, you will piss people off, and I don’t think you can expect otherwise. I would actually say you are lacking empathy here

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I honestly would not expect NT to stop emphasising such things due to the existence of ND people. It reminds me of someone I spoke to who is upset that they wer

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larve 4y ago
That is pretty much the problem, right? "We are in the majority, so we won't really make an effort to accommodate you, too bad." Thankfully I actually see things changing. If you think it's fair to criticize people for their accents and then admonishing them for being upset, you might want to work on your empathy and social skills too.
- bowsamic 4y ago
  I think it’s as impossible to accept someone who breaks social barriers because they aren’t aware of them as it is to accept a murderer into the group. People are hard wired to dislike rude people. If your rudeness is caused by being ND that’s a shame but it is going to be almost impossible for people to ignore your rudeness anyway This is a fundamental difference between ableism and things like racism, often with the former there really are differences that cause problems. For example I have depression and I find it very difficult to work, but society does not accept that and nor do I expect it to. Similarly if you are autistic and take arguments too far because you think you are right, you will piss people off, and I don’t think you can expect otherwise. I would actually say you are lacking empathy here