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You sound like an introvert. Nothing wrong with that. Im an introvert too. As a general rule, and so long as you're not actively making a severe ass of your pr
by SavageBeast 4y ago
You sound like an introvert. Nothing wrong with that. Im an introvert too.
As a general rule, and so long as you're not actively making a severe ass of your presence (you're not - you'd know - you'd have to be trying to do it), consider that the less you care about what other people think socially the more those same people will tend to like you. A quick-and-dirty definition of "Cool" is; Egocentric and Aloof. Self concerned and self interested in short. If you can find a way to adopt that kind of mindset you will notice that gang no longer has any power over your feelings at all. They're really just a bunch of idiots that you don't enjoy spending your valuable time and attention on.
These people have "insecurities" too - it's why they're cliquey in the first place. You're not dealing with a pack of lions here. You're dealing with a pack of hamsters who find strength in numbers.
Enjoy your 3 remote days and gracefully tolerate the 2 in office days. Do your job well as your first (and second) priority. Ask direct questions related to your job via chat or email or whatever. Work "remotely" at the office if that works for you. Same stuff, just down the hall from the coworkers.
Give it 30 days and if it turns around then you won. If you stop caring (you just might) then thats fine too. Alternatively, if in 30 days you still feel the same then it's time to move on.
Ive been in dev shops like this and it wasn't my fault. It's not yours either. Sometimes you just find a group of nasty people and thats how it is. More than likely though, the situation just needs more time to develop.
In the mean time:
* Do your job well
* DO YOUR JOB WELL
* Acknowledge that since you're doing your job well its not your problem
* Be open to the situation changing one day with a simple "hey..." from a coworker (the whole world or at least your view of it can change in one "hey...")
* Be ready to move in the next 30-45 days if the plan fails
Good luck - you got this!