> I'm avoiding going to breakfast with them, to keep away from the weird silences, and I feel like I do them a favour This is a critical flaw in thinking. Yo

> I'm avoiding going to breakfast with them, to keep away from the weird silences, and I feel like I do them a favour This is a critical flaw in thinking. You are NOT a mind reader you have no idea what their opinion of you is, or what they are thinking. You are judging a situation you do not fully understand[0] and it is causing anxiety because you are trying to fix a problem that isn't there. I think you have it backwards. You are depressed and it is causing strain at work. Not the other way around. Why would a team open up to someone who is sullen and won't even grab breakfast and coffee in the morning? They are INVITING YOU to morning coffee. How much more welcoming do you want them to be? What more can they do for you? I recommend a therapist and CBT to control the anxiety you are feeling. [1] Following up: I hear it over and over again. Both of my siblings went onto mild anti-anxiety medication and it made them into a new person. Same with some of my close personal friends. That constant buzzing in the back of your brain wears you out. 0: To be clear, this covers basically every social interaction and situation anyone encounters. 1: I read a book recently called "Positive Intelligence" that I liked quite a lot, that is a sort-of mix between CBT, meditation, and stoicism. I found it helpful in realizing that when you judge a situation, you really only understand a tiny fraction of what is actually happening, and projecting your own shit onto it does not help. And at the end of the day: If they end up actually just being jerks... then screw 'em.