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I started motivated, became sad after a couple of months, and now I’m struggling mentally (it’s starting to affect my performance). They do see me probably as

I started motivated, became sad after a couple of months, and now I’m struggling mentally (it’s starting to affect my performance). They do see me probably as “standoff-ish”. However, I have tried to fake my attitude to look more engaged or positive, but eventually I feel disconnected, and I fall back into a depressive status. It bothers me because they have been nice with me, and there is nothing wrong with them as a team. The fact that they are good people, makes me feel even worse.

mikelevins 4y ago
So depression is not a matter of mood or motivation; it's a medical problem that calls for treatment. If you're just sad and anxious because you don't get along well with folks at work, that's probably not a medical problem. Still, if it's bad and getting worse, you probably want to be sure, just in case. Talk to a healthcare provider to get some help deciding if it's a serious problem, or if it's just that you don't like your situation. You might not be doing anything wrong at all. There's no reason to think you're going to get along well with every person or team that you meet. They might not be doing anything wrong, either. Sometimes people just don't get along. For example, I can think of a couple of people that I have great respect for, but that I don't want to share a room with. Not because they're doing anything wrong, and not because I am; we just rub each other the wrong way. Do your due diligence to make sure you don't have some serious health condition developing. Endure the situation because it might get better, until you're pretty sure that it won't. If you don't get past it, and it seems like it might be bad for you, look for another job. You don't have to get along with everyone. You don't have to stay in a job that's not good for you.
nittanymount 4y ago
as you described, it seems the teammates are nice, but you still feel isolated somehow, unmotivated, stressed working in office, it is not from work pressure, not from conflicts with coworker. talking to a therapist will be a help... a therapist could validate your feeling/thinking, give some good suggestions, evaluation for medication if needed... have you talked to family/friend? saw some in the thread suggests going to office daily, that may not help and could make it worse... hope you feel better soon...

mikelevins 4y ago

So depression is not a matter of mood or motivation; it's a medical problem that calls for treatment. If you're just sad and anxious because you don't get along well with folks at work, that's probably not a medical problem. Still, if it's bad and getting worse, you probably want to be sure, just in case. Talk to a healthcare provider to get some help deciding if it's a serious problem, or if it's just that you don't like your situation. You might not be doing anything wrong at all. There's no reason to think you're going to get along well with every person or team that you meet. They might not be doing anything wrong, either. Sometimes people just don't get along. For example, I can think of a couple of people that I have great respect for, but that I don't want to share a room with. Not because they're doing anything wrong, and not because I am; we just rub each other the wrong way. Do your due diligence to make sure you don't have some serious health condition developing. Endure the situation because it might get better, until you're pretty sure that it won't. If you don't get past it, and it seems like it might be bad for you, look for another job. You don't have to get along with everyone. You don't have to stay in a job that's not good for you.

nittanymount 4y ago

as you described, it seems the teammates are nice, but you still feel isolated somehow, unmotivated, stressed working in office, it is not from work pressure, not from conflicts with coworker. talking to a therapist will be a help... a therapist could validate your feeling/thinking, give some good suggestions, evaluation for medication if needed... have you talked to family/friend? saw some in the thread suggests going to office daily, that may not help and could make it worse... hope you feel better soon...