You might be interested in reading Tribe by Sebastian Junger. The thesis is that a lot of this is caused by the destruction of community and shared purpose in m

You might be interested in reading Tribe by Sebastian Junger. The thesis is that a lot of this is caused by the destruction of community and shared purpose in modern western society, but I think he'd push back strongly on the rigid structure being important or even beneficial. A primary example in the early parts of the book are anglo settlers who joined native american tribes either voluntarily or by force. They almost universally preferred their new lifestyle and if brought back into white society would frequently try to escape. The reverse pretty much never happened.