> judging people by the consequences their actions have in the world is fine. It depends very much on the consequences and their evaluation. If, exaggerating

> judging people by the consequences their actions have in the world is fine. It depends very much on the consequences and their evaluation. If, exaggerating a bit for illustrative purposes, I say "Hello" to a colleague and that colleague is angry, disappointed, upset that I did not use a more formal "Good morning," which in their mind is reserved for more distinguished colleagues, it becomes a "monkey in the circus" problem. That is, I have to change my behavior because I am being manipulated as the more astute and cynical colleague wants: my intentions might be good, but the result is that they are angry and ready to talk to HR. One might read this and think, "This is an absurd case," it will never happen, of course HR, colleagues and all the people in the world will see clearly what is happening. But it does happen, and something similar has happened to me, when we believe that whatever way people react in their minds should be "honored."