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> So if you're forcing child support, most are going to hold a grudge and demand custody of some sort. Fortunately, that's not actually true. I get that you li
by ameister14 4y ago
> So if you're forcing child support, most are going to hold a grudge and demand custody of some sort.
Fortunately, that's not actually true. I get that you likely know of lots of times where this has happened, but the vast majority have uncontested custody. Where custody is contested, the father usually wins at least some version of shared custody, but most of the time that doesn't result in an abusive home.
It's been my experience and it's backed up by HHS data that the most common abuser in these situations is actually the mother, and the most common form that takes is neglect. Access to abortion and resources is more important to solve this than reforms to lessen child support payments.
- diob 4y agoI guess we'll have to disagree, I think we have different views on human nature due to our upbringings, and neither of us really have hard data (how do you really measure abuse / neglect in reality, or long term outcomes due to it). I would hazard it's more widespread then you think, especially since most abuse victims feel shame and hide it thinking they deserved it or it's their fault somehow. Definitely agree that access to abortion is the best outcome.
- ameister14 4y agoSo Dept. of Health and Human Services has probably the best data you're gonna get here, and I do additionally have hard data on contested custody vs. contested child support, but it's no worries. Agree to disagree.