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Love it! Gay might not be the most inclusive label if you are aiming for LGBT folks (I'm queer but not gay), but hey, better to have this than not have this by

Love it! Gay might not be the most inclusive label if you are aiming for LGBT folks (I'm queer but not gay), but hey, better to have this than not have this by a long ways!

Kye 4y ago
My guess is gay is less likely to get it nailed by filters.
- carbadtraingood 4y ago
  Possibly. It's not uncommon for folks to use gay to mean queer/LGBTQ and unintentionally exclude folks. It's a holdover from earlier gay rights and gay liberation movements. The history there is complicated. You also see folks specifically omit the T these days (LBG) to specifically include trans folks. To be clear, the OP sounds like they are a good person and I'm not accusing them of anything negative! Just noting that some folks might interpret the URL differently than intended.
  - alisonatwork 4y ago
    Personally I am not the "G" in LGBTQ+ but I prefer to be described as gay than queer, because in many parts of the world where I lived or visited, queer is still a slur and carries a lot of emotional baggage with it. I don't think it's problematic for a modern website to choose to use gay as the catch-all. Really how people choose to be referred to is just a matter of personal preference, it's not nearly as important as actions or intent. If the site is legit, people will appreciate it all the same.
    - carbadtraingood 4y ago
      Yep. Language is hard. Queer is absolutely a reclaimed slur, and comes with all that baggage, making it either political, fine, or too heavy depending on where you live. In general, I don't mind queer folks calling me queer, but I really bristle when I hear cishet folks use it.
adrien248 4y ago
Thank you for your feedback! :) We spent several days thinking in a better name. We decided to keep this one, but we know at some point we will need to change it. This was more of a SEO strategy; to be more readable; and to stay easily in the mind. For example: If it was "mylgbtqflatmate" would be so difficult to understand. We understand that not everyone identifies as "gay" and we don't want to focus only in that segment. Do you have any suggestion you would like to give? We would love to listen new ideas!! :D
bergenty 4y ago
Queer buy not gay? You should clarify because I bet most of us don’t know what that means.

Love it! Gay might not be the most inclusive label if you are aiming for LGBT folks (I'm queer but not gay), but hey, better to have this than not have this by a long ways!

Kye 4y ago

My guess is gay is less likely to get it nailed by filters.

carbadtraingood 4y ago
Possibly. It's not uncommon for folks to use gay to mean queer/LGBTQ and unintentionally exclude folks. It's a holdover from earlier gay rights and gay liberation movements. The history there is complicated. You also see folks specifically omit the T these days (LBG) to specifically include trans folks. To be clear, the OP sounds like they are a good person and I'm not accusing them of anything negative! Just noting that some folks might interpret the URL differently than intended.
- alisonatwork 4y ago
  Personally I am not the "G" in LGBTQ+ but I prefer to be described as gay than queer, because in many parts of the world where I lived or visited, queer is still a slur and carries a lot of emotional baggage with it. I don't think it's problematic for a modern website to choose to use gay as the catch-all. Really how people choose to be referred to is just a matter of personal preference, it's not nearly as important as actions or intent. If the site is legit, people will appreciate it all the same.
  - carbadtraingood 4y ago
    Yep. Language is hard. Queer is absolutely a reclaimed slur, and comes with all that baggage, making it either political, fine, or too heavy depending on where you live. In general, I don't mind queer folks calling me queer, but I really bristle when I hear cishet folks use it.

adrien248 4y ago

Thank you for your feedback! :) We spent several days thinking in a better name. We decided to keep this one, but we know at some point we will need to change it. This was more of a SEO strategy; to be more readable; and to stay easily in the mind. For example: If it was "mylgbtqflatmate" would be so difficult to understand. We understand that not everyone identifies as "gay" and we don't want to focus only in that segment. Do you have any suggestion you would like to give? We would love to listen new ideas!! :D

bergenty 4y ago

Queer buy not gay? You should clarify because I bet most of us don’t know what that means.