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I don't think you understand just how alienated and dangerous it is to be queer in America. There's a crisis in LGBTQ+ housing. Putting queer folks in with ci

I don't think you understand just how alienated and dangerous it is to be queer in America. There's a crisis in LGBTQ+ housing. Putting queer folks in with cishet folks puts the burden of educating those cishet folks on the shoulders of someone who is already struggling to find housing. Someone experiencing housing struggles because they are queer doesn't need the added burden of being someone's teacher. Those people who need to learn the lesson that humanity is what's important? They need to learn that without relying on minorities to teach them.

homonculus1 4y ago
- jjj123 4y ago
  Does this mean you’re surprised there are queer people on hn? Or that queer people are willing to talk about “queer stuff” on hn? Edited for clarity
  - homonculus1 4y ago
    - AlecSchueler 4y ago
      Couple of things to say to this. First up, this is a technical solution to problem so it seems to fit with what you miss on the first place. But secondly, in the 10+ years I've been coming to this site almost daily it has never been "highly focused" in the way you describe -- it's always been about anything that piques one's intellectual curiosity. But beyond that, being LGBTQIA+ is not a niche thing. Every workplace, classroom, and social circle I've ever been in has had LGBT members. Moreover it's not a "sexual lifestyle" it's simply a part of someone's existence. Your comment is actually bordering on homophobia and that's something I personally hadn't expected to see on HN.
      - klyrs 4y ago
        Not gonna reply to the dead comment, but I think it's worth noting that this particular posting is about a one-person startup. HN is centered on startup culture; this is clearly on-topic where more generic discussions about whatever subculture might not be. That said, it's pretty sad how much time this article spent flagged and how much subtle-to-blatant homo/transphobia even such a clearly on-topic posting picks up.
soueuls 4y ago
I have no idea why you think they need to educate others. If they are looking for housing, they just should look for housing. I don’t need any unsolicited teachings. Go on with your life, the sexuality, pronouns or identities of others are of no use to me.
- smileybarry 4y ago
  "Educate" in this context means being questioned (or looked at) by roommates over things that are trivial to you as LGBTQ, then essentially having to explain why it is you do it or not. It can get tiring over a while.
  - soueuls 4y ago
    Alright, then I guess I am better living in a non LGBTQ friendly place. The interactions you are describing seem way too unnecessarily complex for my liking, I am mostly looking to reduce cost of living, having a few drinks from time to time and playing the occasional board game night. Being lectured about critical race theory or whatever, seems exhausting. I don’t think I am that much interested about why people are doing the things they do. So being « educated » without asking for it, seems annoying. All in all, I agree with the project of OP, it’s a good idea that people who want to educate others can segregate themselves with people who are interested by being lectured.
    - carbadtraingood 4y ago
      "I'd prefer my solipsistic world where I can do things that are irritating or offensive to queer folks and I'm annoyed when people raise those concerns to me." That sure is a take, my dude.
      - soueuls 4y ago
        Your whole message convinces me that OP idea of a project is actually pretty good. I think he is creating a safe space for queer people AND he is indirectly creating a safe space for non queer people at the same time.

homonculus1 4y ago

jjj123 4y ago
Does this mean you’re surprised there are queer people on hn? Or that queer people are willing to talk about “queer stuff” on hn? Edited for clarity
- homonculus1 4y ago
  - AlecSchueler 4y ago
    Couple of things to say to this. First up, this is a technical solution to problem so it seems to fit with what you miss on the first place. But secondly, in the 10+ years I've been coming to this site almost daily it has never been "highly focused" in the way you describe -- it's always been about anything that piques one's intellectual curiosity. But beyond that, being LGBTQIA+ is not a niche thing. Every workplace, classroom, and social circle I've ever been in has had LGBT members. Moreover it's not a "sexual lifestyle" it's simply a part of someone's existence. Your comment is actually bordering on homophobia and that's something I personally hadn't expected to see on HN.
    - klyrs 4y ago
      Not gonna reply to the dead comment, but I think it's worth noting that this particular posting is about a one-person startup. HN is centered on startup culture; this is clearly on-topic where more generic discussions about whatever subculture might not be. That said, it's pretty sad how much time this article spent flagged and how much subtle-to-blatant homo/transphobia even such a clearly on-topic posting picks up.

soueuls 4y ago

I have no idea why you think they need to educate others. If they are looking for housing, they just should look for housing. I don’t need any unsolicited teachings. Go on with your life, the sexuality, pronouns or identities of others are of no use to me.

smileybarry 4y ago
"Educate" in this context means being questioned (or looked at) by roommates over things that are trivial to you as LGBTQ, then essentially having to explain why it is you do it or not. It can get tiring over a while.
- soueuls 4y ago
  Alright, then I guess I am better living in a non LGBTQ friendly place. The interactions you are describing seem way too unnecessarily complex for my liking, I am mostly looking to reduce cost of living, having a few drinks from time to time and playing the occasional board game night. Being lectured about critical race theory or whatever, seems exhausting. I don’t think I am that much interested about why people are doing the things they do. So being « educated » without asking for it, seems annoying. All in all, I agree with the project of OP, it’s a good idea that people who want to educate others can segregate themselves with people who are interested by being lectured.
  - carbadtraingood 4y ago
    "I'd prefer my solipsistic world where I can do things that are irritating or offensive to queer folks and I'm annoyed when people raise those concerns to me." That sure is a take, my dude.
    - soueuls 4y ago
      Your whole message convinces me that OP idea of a project is actually pretty good. I think he is creating a safe space for queer people AND he is indirectly creating a safe space for non queer people at the same time.