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I had(have) the same problem but I'm successfully resolving it. In the last 10 days I made more progress than 10 years combined before. Why? Because I realize

I had(have) the same problem but I'm successfully resolving it. In the last 10 days I made more progress than 10 years combined before. Why? Because I realized that the problem is inside of my mind. What is causing me to not finish/doubt my own projects? There are many reasons, each unique to each persons's mind. One must brutaly focus in on the specific reasons and resolve them. The solution that is working for me: sit in front of PC, close my eyes, focus on the problem. I am NOT talking about regular meditation. You have people who mediate hours for their entire life and get nowhere. What DOES work is to bring and hold the problem in your mind and just let it "hover" there. Eventualy you will start getting random thoughts/ideas which will show you details about this thing and your reactions to it that you have never seen before. Note that this can take anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes. But very often I get many insights in a single 30 minutes session, many more than just one. But it's a bit random. Basicaly it has to be active meditation. I hold the problem in my mind and after 5, 15, 30...minuts solutions start popping in. Listening to Jiddu Krishnamurti is what "pushed me over the edge" to realize that sitting down alone in a quite room and examine your mind is the only way forward. Your problems will be specific to you. In short, you need to figure out what is preventing you from monetizing and finishing your side projects. This thing that is preventing you is in your mind. You are uncertain. Uncertanty creates a "choice" in your mind. You will then pick A over B, but because the uncertanty will still be there you will forever cycle between A and B, never commiting to each. Address the source of the uncertanty. When you do that, the choice will dissapear and never bother you again. The problem with this advice is that I cannot give you specific advice since you will have to figure out what is causing resistance in your mind against monetizing/commiting to your side projects.

gwnywg 4y ago
This is very speciffic advice, something I was struggling to put together clearly but felt it deep inside for years. Thanks for leaving this comment here!
avindroth 4y ago
In true Krishnamurti fashion, you should seek your own methods. Ironically, that may be relying on other people’s methods, but willingly surrendering is different from will-less surrendering.
- oifjsidjf 4y ago
  True. The question becomes: is there the most optimal way of achieving this? If other's people methods are optimal, then you should take their techniques. At the same time you ask yourself "Were they doing something where/inneficient? Am I spinning in circles?"
crotho 4y ago
DanUKs 4y ago
Great comment. Thank you. I'm currently reading "Manifest. 7 steps to living your best life". It's pretty much exactly what you've described. It sounds like you're going through an amazing transformation. Embrace it and change your life. They don't come round often. Give that book a read when you get the chance :)
- oifjsidjf 4y ago
  Will do, thank you. It took me many years to finaly come to the deep realization that sitting down by yourself and brutaly examining my own problems that the mind generates is the only way forward. The amount of resistance I felt to this was enourmous. I escaped by trying to browse internet, read books etc... for way too many years. Listening to 20hours+ of Krishnamurti's talk was what finally made me realize that there really is no other way that to examine what is inside of yourself. And you will not find solutions to your "mind problems" on the internet or in books, only in your own mind, which is done by sitting alone, quitly and observing the mind precisely.
  - wnolens 4y ago
    Have a pointer to any of these talks? I always found him to be impossible to grok, saying really ambiguous things to the point of being devoid of practical meaning. But what you cite that you got out of him is a mindset that I got out of years of therapy and reading self-help books - that is, those methods utterly failed and so now if it doesn't come from my own mind (with a few exceptions), I can't take the advice.
    - oifjsidjf 4y ago
      Yes he is "annoying" most of the time aka wasting your time. Basicaly it's 95% fluff since he talks about world peace etc... a lot. But you find 5% of practical stuff in his talks. I probably listened to 20+hours of his talks. I put it on my phone and go for a walk in the city and fast forward it. So as far as pointers to his talk...not really...but at some point you realize that: 1) It actuall works 2) That repeated exposure to ideas is required until the human comes to the realization that only self-examination can work. Once you understand that you can somewhat easily "suffer" through Kirshnamurti, fast forward it and ignore 90% but then listen and re-listen to certain parts. No magic sauce I'm afraid... You might also wish to read Kapil Gupta's Siddha Performance website.

gwnywg 4y ago

This is very speciffic advice, something I was struggling to put together clearly but felt it deep inside for years. Thanks for leaving this comment here!

avindroth 4y ago

In true Krishnamurti fashion, you should seek your own methods. Ironically, that may be relying on other people’s methods, but willingly surrendering is different from will-less surrendering.

oifjsidjf 4y ago
True. The question becomes: is there the most optimal way of achieving this? If other's people methods are optimal, then you should take their techniques. At the same time you ask yourself "Were they doing something where/inneficient? Am I spinning in circles?"

crotho 4y ago

DanUKs 4y ago

Great comment. Thank you. I'm currently reading "Manifest. 7 steps to living your best life". It's pretty much exactly what you've described. It sounds like you're going through an amazing transformation. Embrace it and change your life. They don't come round often. Give that book a read when you get the chance :)

oifjsidjf 4y ago
Will do, thank you. It took me many years to finaly come to the deep realization that sitting down by yourself and brutaly examining my own problems that the mind generates is the only way forward. The amount of resistance I felt to this was enourmous. I escaped by trying to browse internet, read books etc... for way too many years. Listening to 20hours+ of Krishnamurti's talk was what finally made me realize that there really is no other way that to examine what is inside of yourself. And you will not find solutions to your "mind problems" on the internet or in books, only in your own mind, which is done by sitting alone, quitly and observing the mind precisely.
- wnolens 4y ago
  Have a pointer to any of these talks? I always found him to be impossible to grok, saying really ambiguous things to the point of being devoid of practical meaning. But what you cite that you got out of him is a mindset that I got out of years of therapy and reading self-help books - that is, those methods utterly failed and so now if it doesn't come from my own mind (with a few exceptions), I can't take the advice.
  - oifjsidjf 4y ago
    Yes he is "annoying" most of the time aka wasting your time. Basicaly it's 95% fluff since he talks about world peace etc... a lot. But you find 5% of practical stuff in his talks. I probably listened to 20+hours of his talks. I put it on my phone and go for a walk in the city and fast forward it. So as far as pointers to his talk...not really...but at some point you realize that: 1) It actuall works 2) That repeated exposure to ideas is required until the human comes to the realization that only self-examination can work. Once you understand that you can somewhat easily "suffer" through Kirshnamurti, fast forward it and ignore 90% but then listen and re-listen to certain parts. No magic sauce I'm afraid... You might also wish to read Kapil Gupta's Siddha Performance website.