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>You’re their parent, not their friend. You can’t be both. Sure you can. And the only reason you are saying otherwise is you don't know how to do both.
by eatsyourtacos 4y ago
>You’re their parent, not their friend. You can’t be both.
Sure you can. And the only reason you are saying otherwise is you don't know how to do both.
- brightball 4y agoAt some point you’re going to have to choose one or the other. You can only do both until that happens.
- elpakal 4y agobut it’s not absolutely one or the other. you can be both a friend most of the time but a parent all of the time
- eatsyourtacos 4y agoI don't know what issues you apparently have with your kids, but stop projecting that on the rest of us who have managed a healthy balance.
- brightball 4y agoI don’t know what you think being the parent means that you react so strongly to the idea?
- Wurdan 4y agoLet me flip that around on you - what do YOU think being a parent means which is mutually exclusive with being a friend?
- brightball 4y agoWould you ever deny a friend something they wanted to do that you knew wasn’t good for them? You aren’t responsible for your friends.
- resonious 4y agoI would definitely try to stop my friend from doing something I see as unhealthy or dangerous.
- Wurdan 4y agoAs others have said - absolutely, yes. Responsibility has very little to do with it, it's all about wanting the best outcome for them. And that should apply to both your children and your friends.
- thirdsun 4y ago> Would you ever deny a friend something they wanted to do that you knew wasn’t good for them? Ahm...yes? A friend isn't characterized by how much they agree with you. It's perfectly valid to say no.
- jcpst 4y agoI guess that depends on how you treat your friends.
- irjustin 4y agoThese sentences lack too much nuance that life has. You can do both up to a point, but it is true you are a parent first and a friend second. The problem with the previous statement is - many situations require switching and it's extremely tough to know what to be when. My guess is, if you do worry/think about it, your kids will overall be fine.