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It's not a lack of empathy or understanding it's that those of us who faced the dilemma you seem stuck on found the people who care and we care about still foun

It's not a lack of empathy or understanding it's that those of us who faced the dilemma you seem stuck on found the people who care and we care about still found ways to communicate after we left Facebook. Calls and texts are sufficient. I'm sorry you feel that trapped though. Something seems off in your replies. And ultimately nobody here has said anything that you have to listen to but you seem pretty defensive.

ColinWright 4y ago
> Calls and texts are sufficient. No, they're not. I refer you to my comment here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180 > ... you seem pretty defensive. I'm really rather tired of people saying "Well just stop using FB" while apparently expending zero effort to understand the context. I'll stop now.
- libraryatnight 4y ago
  Sorry, I should have said We've found calls and texts sufficient. My point is people seemed to be giving you anecdotes about how they personally got away and you are taking it as "DO THIS" You are free to keep up on Facebook. We're not shaming you or at least I'm not reading the comments that way. My point is - if you really want off Facebook, you can do it.
- oarsinsync 4y ago
  There was a time my entire network was on Facebook. I decided I didn’t want to be anymore. I reached out to everyone who was important to me off Facebook. Within 12 months, I knew who I was actually important to too. Sure, some of them I now only speak to once or twice a year, compared to comments regularly on posts, but the interactions are much deeper and more meaningful than that superficial FB interactions. It wasn’t easy. It was worth it. This isn’t for everyone, and depends in your own stage in life. Be safe, be strong, be happy.
- pvg 4y ago
  Helps the site (and is less irritating personally) to just flag the thread-invariant toplevel trope comments. 'stop using facebook' on anything fb-related is just that kind of comment.
Kaze404 4y ago
This is an incredibly condescending and dismissive reply to someone expressing vulnerability. I ask you to consider simply scrolling past and/or closing the tab if your reaction to someone expressing vulnerability includes the words “I’m sorry you feel […]” or “[…] you seem pretty defensive”.

ColinWright 4y ago

> Calls and texts are sufficient. No, they're not. I refer you to my comment here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180 > ... you seem pretty defensive. I'm really rather tired of people saying "Well just stop using FB" while apparently expending zero effort to understand the context. I'll stop now.

libraryatnight 4y ago
Sorry, I should have said We've found calls and texts sufficient. My point is people seemed to be giving you anecdotes about how they personally got away and you are taking it as "DO THIS" You are free to keep up on Facebook. We're not shaming you or at least I'm not reading the comments that way. My point is - if you really want off Facebook, you can do it.
oarsinsync 4y ago
There was a time my entire network was on Facebook. I decided I didn’t want to be anymore. I reached out to everyone who was important to me off Facebook. Within 12 months, I knew who I was actually important to too. Sure, some of them I now only speak to once or twice a year, compared to comments regularly on posts, but the interactions are much deeper and more meaningful than that superficial FB interactions. It wasn’t easy. It was worth it. This isn’t for everyone, and depends in your own stage in life. Be safe, be strong, be happy.
pvg 4y ago
Helps the site (and is less irritating personally) to just flag the thread-invariant toplevel trope comments. 'stop using facebook' on anything fb-related is just that kind of comment.

Kaze404 4y ago

This is an incredibly condescending and dismissive reply to someone expressing vulnerability. I ask you to consider simply scrolling past and/or closing the tab if your reaction to someone expressing vulnerability includes the words “I’m sorry you feel […]” or “[…] you seem pretty defensive”.