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I don't think being interrupted happens to females only. It happens to everyone. I think author is just assuming that people are interrupting her because of her

I don't think being interrupted happens to females only. It happens to everyone. I think author is just assuming that people are interrupting her because of her gender, while in the reality people interrupt each other all the time

civilized 4y ago
My guess is that sometimes people misinterpret it as gendered or racialized, but a lot of times they may actually live in an environment that really does treat them differently. It's hard to know without being in their shoes to see and hear it.
zzzeek 4y ago
no, but the interrupting itself tends (of course not always, just tends) to be a male habit, and we males are kind of used to interrupting each other kind of like an extension of boyhood rough play, or something, but it's not the same experience as that experienced by many females.
- civilized 4y ago
  It would be interesting if men and women have a different average tolerance for being interrupted. We would want to be sensitive to that, not just assume that the "male default" is how every group meeting should work.
- commandlinefan 4y ago
  I’m male and am interrupted far more often by females.
  - lamontcg 4y ago
    It is actually fundamentally more about social status and reputation, just like high school.
- rustybelt 4y ago
  Why should males be asked to change their communication style to be more feminine? Especially in a majority male working environment? Shouldn’t the women be the ones to adapt? Is there something inherently wrong with how men tend to communicate? It actually seems more sexist to make these changes because supposedly “fragile” women can’t handle the existing environment.
  - zzzeek 4y ago
    I'd welcome less aggression and one-upmanship in workplaces also.
itsdrewmiller 4y ago
Obviously some men are interrupted sometimes, but overall it happens much more often to women and by men. * https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-interrupting-women https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-inter... * https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/07/study-men-interrupt-women-more-in-tech-workplaces-but-high-ranking-women-learn-to-interrupt.html https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/07/study-men-interrupt...

civilized 4y ago

My guess is that sometimes people misinterpret it as gendered or racialized, but a lot of times they may actually live in an environment that really does treat them differently. It's hard to know without being in their shoes to see and hear it.

zzzeek 4y ago

no, but the interrupting itself tends (of course not always, just tends) to be a male habit, and we males are kind of used to interrupting each other kind of like an extension of boyhood rough play, or something, but it's not the same experience as that experienced by many females.

civilized 4y ago
It would be interesting if men and women have a different average tolerance for being interrupted. We would want to be sensitive to that, not just assume that the "male default" is how every group meeting should work.
commandlinefan 4y ago
I’m male and am interrupted far more often by females.
- lamontcg 4y ago
  It is actually fundamentally more about social status and reputation, just like high school.
rustybelt 4y ago
Why should males be asked to change their communication style to be more feminine? Especially in a majority male working environment? Shouldn’t the women be the ones to adapt? Is there something inherently wrong with how men tend to communicate? It actually seems more sexist to make these changes because supposedly “fragile” women can’t handle the existing environment.
- zzzeek 4y ago
  I'd welcome less aggression and one-upmanship in workplaces also.

itsdrewmiller 4y ago

Obviously some men are interrupted sometimes, but overall it happens much more often to women and by men. * https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-interrupting-women https://www.advisory.com/daily-briefing/2017/07/07/men-inter... * https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/07/study-men-interrupt-women-more-in-tech-workplaces-but-high-ranking-women-learn-to-interrupt.html https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/07/study-men-interrupt...