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I was around some people who have been immensely successful in Silicon Valley (think founders of $X B companies) and they all seemed to have one thing in common
by twayt 4y ago
I was around some people who have been immensely successful in Silicon Valley (think founders of $X B companies) and they all seemed to have one thing in common.
They had no qualms about blatantly ignoring a person talking to them. Or walking out of conversations without any proper manners.
In front of an audience, they seemed like normal, friendly and charismatic people. But when you actually spoke to them 1 on 1, their true nature came through.
Not sure if they are sociopaths, autistic, on drugs or simply elitist but it was an extremely unnerving experience.
- auntienomen 4y agoIt might just be rational. Famous people have to guard their time carefully, or it will be eaten entirely by the demands of others. I'm not famous and I don't mind taking time for the 1 person a day who asks me to think about something. But if there were 100 people a day doing that I might have to prioritize.
- twayt 4y agoSurely there’s a better way of guarding your time, like not being around people when you need to do it
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- colechristensen 4y agoOr they have people constantly approaching them and burned out on being nice to all of them.
- twayt 4y agoIt was very selective and they only acted this way to a certain group of people
- _fat_santa 4y ago> Not sure if they are sociopaths, autistic, on drugs or simply elitist but it was an extremely unnerving experience. I think "asshole" is the term you are looking for here.
- sinenomine 4y agoSociopaths would be glad if the masses just called them "asshole" and went on with their daily lives, instead of researching the corresponding human type to the full available depth of evidence. It's a bit like "the masquerade" in a certain urban fantasy RPG, and if you look at it in a historical context you could see that the archetypal vampire is mostly an aesthetic folkloric rendering of dark-triad archetype. "An aristocrat that feeds on common people's blood". Repeated ascendancy of such human type to the top of the social hierarchy, despite the current ideology, is simply tragic.
- sinenomine 4y agoIt is the other side of the filter that was used to select them through a dozen of layers of competitive management (or, in the case of pure founders - through several DDs, investment rounds cofounder struggles, not to mention the market competition). I too have observed this attitude from tech managers. Sociopaths will exist, in a Nash equilibrium with their population, just because the genetical building blocks for reemergence of this phenotype continue to float in the general population. Indeed, if one looks for it, one finds that "dark-triad" personality is found to be sexually appealing. What else needs to be said about us? ... The individuals in question will be drawn to zero sum struggles of the power process, just because they are well equipped to navigate this landscape. The meager expected improvement of having my personal life less influenced by this human type was enough for me to avoid immigrating to the USA and focus on the EU instead. Yes, it is poorer, but the socially-democratic political sensibility doesn't allow american management types to bloom in their full capacity. At some point of intensity, the zero sum struggle grinds everything into the low-trust cesspool. It is a force of nature to be acknowledged.
- IIAOPSW 4y agoSounds like you need to try being autistic, on drugs, and a tad bit more elitist.