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The 'it's all my fault' attitude isn't really helpful for you to solve those problems however. Binge eating can be driven by a myriad of factors, mostly psychol

by Aloha 4y ago

The 'it's all my fault' attitude isn't really helpful for you to solve those problems however. Binge eating can be driven by a myriad of factors, mostly psychological. I'm fat too, and I'm comfortable with that word, I dont like medicalizing it with term obesity. While my weight is at least partially my own fault, its at least influenced by factors outside of my control - upbringing, genetics, societal factors, and an endocrine disorder too. I've concluded that being fat is a result of Type II diabetes rather than a cause - and there is growing science to back me up - a good example of this, my liver dumps glucose into my system, without meds I can fast for a nearly indefinite period of time without my blood sugar falling off.

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MichaelCollins 4y ago
Whether or not the realization that overeating is my problem helps me solve the problem is orthogonal to whether or not it's true. It is objectively true that I overeat. In my case, I believe I overeat because I have poor impulse control and I enjoy both the act of eating and the sensation of being stuffed with food. Furthermore I particularly enjoy greasy and carby foods, pizza particularly. If I ate less (or stuffed myself with plant fiber instead of pizza grease) I am certain that I would lose weight. Do I have the motivation and conviction to follow through with that? Past performance says no. But that doesn't change the fact that I'm overeating. It's not an attitude, it's reality.
- Aloha 4y ago
  The additional shame I suspect you feel about your eating habits, likely leads you to binge eat more however - thats my larger point, it creates a negative feelings cycle that makes the problem worse. You probably binge eat to plug an emotional or stress hole, its literally a form of self medicating. Thats not something that willpower or blaming yourself can solve.
  - MichaelCollins 4y ago
    That's possible. But the fact remains that I overeat.
- polishdude20 4y ago
  Yeah at some point it doesn't matter who's at fault. It matters who will make the change. We tend to think the entity at fault is the entity that needs to remedy the situation. Whoever or whatever you believe is at fault, the person who is responsible for the change is always you. It's easy to blame something and then also mentally picture that thing / or person as the one in charge of fixing the problem. So maybe the motto is: It's not your fault but it IS your responsibility.

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MichaelCollins 4y ago

Whether or not the realization that overeating is my problem helps me solve the problem is orthogonal to whether or not it's true. It is objectively true that I overeat. In my case, I believe I overeat because I have poor impulse control and I enjoy both the act of eating and the sensation of being stuffed with food. Furthermore I particularly enjoy greasy and carby foods, pizza particularly. If I ate less (or stuffed myself with plant fiber instead of pizza grease) I am certain that I would lose weight. Do I have the motivation and conviction to follow through with that? Past performance says no. But that doesn't change the fact that I'm overeating. It's not an attitude, it's reality.

Aloha 4y ago
The additional shame I suspect you feel about your eating habits, likely leads you to binge eat more however - thats my larger point, it creates a negative feelings cycle that makes the problem worse. You probably binge eat to plug an emotional or stress hole, its literally a form of self medicating. Thats not something that willpower or blaming yourself can solve.
- MichaelCollins 4y ago
  That's possible. But the fact remains that I overeat.
polishdude20 4y ago
Yeah at some point it doesn't matter who's at fault. It matters who will make the change. We tend to think the entity at fault is the entity that needs to remedy the situation. Whoever or whatever you believe is at fault, the person who is responsible for the change is always you. It's easy to blame something and then also mentally picture that thing / or person as the one in charge of fixing the problem. So maybe the motto is: It's not your fault but it IS your responsibility.