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> I recommend hosting an e-mail server by yourself As someone who did this from about 2001 until three years ago, I strongly suggest most people don't bother

> I recommend hosting an e-mail server by yourself As someone who did this from about 2001 until three years ago, I strongly suggest most people don't bother with this route. GMail, Outlook, etc, all throw so many arbitrary and ever-changing security conditions to accept mail, it really isn't worth the hassle - or the lost clients from mails that don't reach their walled-garden end-points. I've used Fastmail for a few years now, and I'm 99% sure that when I respond to an email sent from GMail, they'll actually receive it (So, I'm not talking about cold-emails, which I could just about begin to understand).

mysterydip 4y ago
Same here. I finally stopped self-hosting this past year. I moved to privateemail through namecheap, where I have my domains. For me it actually ended up being cheaper than the VPS I was using for rolling my own email server (let alone the cost of my time administrating/maintaining). Rolling your own is fine until you're explaining to your spouse why the realtor never received the email they're waiting for to adjust the closing documents.
- sam_lowry_ 4y ago
  I self-hosted since 2001 as well and not planning to stop.
LinuxBender 4y ago
I moved a few domains to fastmail and found that oddly AT&T ISP drops some emails from them on the floor. It is not a big deal given I don't know many people using AT&T's email but just thought I would add that for completeness sake.
blop 4y ago
I'm still self hosting after more than 15 years and I think what matters most is the reputation of your IP address, so it can be hit and miss depending on where you host your mail server...
- detritus 4y ago
  Yeah, I get this and had changed servers a couple of times over the years and sought to have shared IPs verified, etc, but I just got fed up of jumping through hoops, despite doing everything 'right'. I still host my personal email address, but I lost a few jobs sent to my work address by inadvertently being 'rude' in not responding to cold emails from GMail addresses I had in fact responded to. THAT was the situation that really irked. Such a stupid logic, or lack thereof.

mysterydip 4y ago

Same here. I finally stopped self-hosting this past year. I moved to privateemail through namecheap, where I have my domains. For me it actually ended up being cheaper than the VPS I was using for rolling my own email server (let alone the cost of my time administrating/maintaining). Rolling your own is fine until you're explaining to your spouse why the realtor never received the email they're waiting for to adjust the closing documents.

sam_lowry_ 4y ago
I self-hosted since 2001 as well and not planning to stop.

LinuxBender 4y ago

I moved a few domains to fastmail and found that oddly AT&T ISP drops some emails from them on the floor. It is not a big deal given I don't know many people using AT&T's email but just thought I would add that for completeness sake.

blop 4y ago

I'm still self hosting after more than 15 years and I think what matters most is the reputation of your IP address, so it can be hit and miss depending on where you host your mail server...

detritus 4y ago
Yeah, I get this and had changed servers a couple of times over the years and sought to have shared IPs verified, etc, but I just got fed up of jumping through hoops, despite doing everything 'right'. I still host my personal email address, but I lost a few jobs sent to my work address by inadvertently being 'rude' in not responding to cold emails from GMail addresses I had in fact responded to. THAT was the situation that really irked. Such a stupid logic, or lack thereof.