> but I don't want to call attention to this I mean, neither does OKCupid. If they don't want to play ball, going wide (notably, with an attorney) only seems t

> but I don't want to call attention to this I mean, neither does OKCupid. If they don't want to play ball, going wide (notably, with an attorney) only seems to benefit you: current and future employers see it's not actually you doing this, OKCupid risks losing the only thing they want (women that trust the app), and other women get a heads up.