i think we are discussing separate points OP commingled morals and kindness when his intent (now obvious to me after rereading) was to explicitly discuss moral

i think we are discussing separate points OP commingled morals and kindness when his intent (now obvious to me after rereading) was to explicitly discuss morality of the situation. You are exploring the morality of performing an action that violates moral norms (in this case, expectation of privacy) We were exploring whether it is possible to be kind from an act if the end goal is obtain valuable exchange, off the act