It's true that maybe it matters where you are. I imagine SF and Seattle might be different. I was recently in <another major US tech center city> for a bit and

It's true that maybe it matters where you are. I imagine SF and Seattle might be different. I was recently in <another major US tech center city> for a bit and didn't have trouble getting dates on Tinder, and picked up a 26yo girl from Seattle in a bar. I don't think I'm good looking, but I am interesting. I talk well with people both online and in person. > Also - I take “average looking white guy” with a grain of salt. Well thanks and I wish that was true. But balding, middle aged, slightly overweight computer programmer here. I don't have acne I guess and I try to dress well, and like I said above I'm interesting. I also taught myself how to actively listen. Someone once told me they'd met Bill Clinton, and he had the ability to make people feel like they were the most important person in the whole world when he spoke to them, and they said I'm like that. I'm not discounting your experience and the stats that say what they do. But I know how bad I was with women when I was in my 20s and when I meet many guys who complain about this I see the same behaviors I had.