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Um this is the golden age right now. I'm a middle age balding white guy and I can find more women who want me to top them on Tinder (let alone Feeld!) than I c

Um this is the golden age right now. I'm a middle age balding white guy and I can find more women who want me to top them on Tinder (let alone Feeld!) than I can handle. If you don't believe me, post a pic of some shibari and see what happens (assuming you have normal Tinder profile with face pics and you don't seem too weird). I'm sure you'd find the same thing. Fetlife is in trouble because of the combination of Facebook (which you can find groups for if your kink is less challenging that needle play!) and OF which causes so much spamming.

athrowaway223 4y ago
Absolutely lol, I joke with my girlfriend that 50 shades of gray was the best thing to ever happen for my sex life. I had a Tinder profile with some kink stuff in my bio, my collection of gear/toys and (with her permission) a technically SFW picture from a previous encounter of a girl tied up and suspended. Went from a few matches a week to getting literally dozens a day as soon as I added that stuff to my profile, my current girlfriend being one of them actually.
- throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
  Wow that rope is amazing! How did you learn to do that? :) I don't even particularly enjoy shibari. But a pic of a single column on an arm or something is like a shibboleth that unlocks a whole world...
superhnthrowlol 4y ago
I'm going to presume you're correct. I'd never tried this on Tinder, the place felt so vanilla I just didn't feel like it would be right doing such a thing.
- throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
  Post a single column tie on an arm and see what happens. You can thank me later.
- athrowaway223 4y ago
  Needleplay is definitely a lot more niche and you're probably not gonna have girls falling over themselves to like you used to on Fet and AMM to do that specifically. I've found girls on Tinder are usually pretty inexperienced with kink stuff, and are more interested in light bondage and general dom/sub stuff, at least to start. But also ran into some that, having zero real life kink experiences, immediately expressed interests in more....advanced I guess(?)stuff like CNC and TPE, so who knows though. The last few generations have had access to the entire spectrum of kinks, and photo/video examples of them in action, via the internet and they are just waiting for an opportunity to live it out themselves. Edit -- for anyone reading this that may run into someone like me on Tinder, just be careful. I'm always sure to have long talks about limits and boundaries and expectations before any clothes come off, but there's tons of creeps out there that will take advantage of your youth/inexperience to try and push your boundaries, or make you do things your not comfortable with. No means no, anyone not respecting your limits isn't someone you need to fuck with The second anything like that happens or they try to guilt you for saying no to something, you need to shut things down and leave right then. Don't let them use kink stuff as a cover to abuse or exploit you. Be smart, be safe.

athrowaway223 4y ago

Absolutely lol, I joke with my girlfriend that 50 shades of gray was the best thing to ever happen for my sex life. I had a Tinder profile with some kink stuff in my bio, my collection of gear/toys and (with her permission) a technically SFW picture from a previous encounter of a girl tied up and suspended. Went from a few matches a week to getting literally dozens a day as soon as I added that stuff to my profile, my current girlfriend being one of them actually.

throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
Wow that rope is amazing! How did you learn to do that? :) I don't even particularly enjoy shibari. But a pic of a single column on an arm or something is like a shibboleth that unlocks a whole world...

superhnthrowlol 4y ago

I'm going to presume you're correct. I'd never tried this on Tinder, the place felt so vanilla I just didn't feel like it would be right doing such a thing.

throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
Post a single column tie on an arm and see what happens. You can thank me later.
athrowaway223 4y ago
Needleplay is definitely a lot more niche and you're probably not gonna have girls falling over themselves to like you used to on Fet and AMM to do that specifically. I've found girls on Tinder are usually pretty inexperienced with kink stuff, and are more interested in light bondage and general dom/sub stuff, at least to start. But also ran into some that, having zero real life kink experiences, immediately expressed interests in more....advanced I guess(?)stuff like CNC and TPE, so who knows though. The last few generations have had access to the entire spectrum of kinks, and photo/video examples of them in action, via the internet and they are just waiting for an opportunity to live it out themselves. Edit -- for anyone reading this that may run into someone like me on Tinder, just be careful. I'm always sure to have long talks about limits and boundaries and expectations before any clothes come off, but there's tons of creeps out there that will take advantage of your youth/inexperience to try and push your boundaries, or make you do things your not comfortable with. No means no, anyone not respecting your limits isn't someone you need to fuck with The second anything like that happens or they try to guilt you for saying no to something, you need to shut things down and leave right then. Don't let them use kink stuff as a cover to abuse or exploit you. Be smart, be safe.