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A hookup app for the emotionally mature

50 points by mitchbob 4y ago

at_a_remove 4y ago
Check the people she talked to in depth, and her: all female or femme-leaning in identity. I know it's not a "study" as such but there's a sampling bias going on there. I would like to hear from some ordinary, average guys on the app.
- klipt 4y ago
  I wonder if the ordinary, average guys realize they get more responses if they identify as ... not guys?
  - at_a_remove 4y ago
    "Everyone, feel free to be yourself! Uh, but not you." That's the sort of idea where you realize if anyone involved had a sense of self-awareness they'd find the result painful, but instead they'll continue on, oblivious.
mitchbob 4y ago
Archived: https://archive.ph/0uUmN https://archive.ph/0uUmN
throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
Throwaway account for obvious reasons I'm on Feeld and wow the headline for article is a weird take. Compared to Tinder and Bumble there aren't many people (which isn't surprising) and it's very explicitly about non-vanilla sex, and I would never have thought that "emotionally mature" would characterize the people on it. I'm in my 40s and I have trouble finding people my age. It's ok if you want to find a rope bunny or something like that though. When I was in a relationship we tried it for threesomes and TBH had more luck with that on Tinder. Also the "cores" concept is just strange. Why did they choose the cities they did? In Australia you can see who is in Melbourne but not Sydney (And Sydney is kind of an iconic gay city, which has a lot of cross over into kink).
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- throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
  Having said that - while I remain critical of the headline - the article is quite good (hey it's a NewYorker article so it's long). I do think it reflects the author's experience a lot though. It doesn't reflect what I've seen when I use the app.
  - throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
    Someone asked how it compares to FetLife but deleted their question. My response was: Many more swingers. I've never tried to use FetLife as a dating app. But in my city I recognize many people across the both (so yes a lot of people into kink, which often doesn't really overlap much with the swinger community).
- majormajor 4y ago
  My take on the "emotionally mature" after the article + your comment is "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla." Never used Feeld, not in the market at the moment, but I never saw anyone on Tinder who put any kinks up front.
  - phkahler 4y ago
    >> "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla." That can be a sign of vulnerability, or something more along the lines of defiance. One is more mature, the other is quite the opposite.
- superhnthrowlol 4y ago
  Well clearly I need a throw away also. Also an Australian in late 40's. There was a golden age a while back using websites such as AMM for hookups and threesomes, and Fetlife was unusually great for kink. I basically just listed myself as a male into needle play (with equipment) and LOTS of girls actually came to me. I would get messages asking if my lab was real and when they could visit. Which is a completely contrast to anything you'd see today. Fetlife really died. The vast majority of female accounts have some variation of "if you'd like to talk to me more, subscribe to my Onlyfans". I opened my inbox today and clicked on the profiles of girls that messaged me years ago, they've all left the site, and you absolutely can't replicate that experience on Tinder.
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dvt 4y ago
Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only that its users are above a certain age but also that they favor a kind of maturity and decorum; by “hookup,” I mean that the app facilitates not romance but sex, broadly defined. It is not the place to find your “down-to-earth, no-drama girlfriend” or your “partner in crime.” How exactly does this translate into "emotional maturity?" Sounds like the writer is trying to ascribe some kind of moral superiority to enjoying non-vanilla casual sex. I mean, that's cool I guess, and no judgment, but from where I stand, dealing with bills, conflict resolution, changing diapers, attending PTA meetings, having to put kids through college, etc. probably requires way more "emotional maturity" than hooking up on a dating app. But maybe that's just me. > Not having a partner and not having kids may mean that you have more sporadic sexual encounters with people you do not know very well. I get that there's an agenda at play here (the very next sentence gets into abortion), but this is provably false. Young people are having less sex than ever[1]. In fact, many psychologists and sociologists are worried about a potential population bust. The root cause is unknown. [1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-ame...
- mise_en_place 4y ago
  It's more like it requires an emotional apathy or detachment. At least that's what I've heard from my friends who engage in such casual encounters.
- babelfish 4y ago
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Invictus0 4y ago
I agree with throw_xxx_rated, very weird title. I tried Feeld and there are basically no vanilla people on it. You are pressed to fit yourself by one of the many new-age hyperspecific sexual orientations and fetish boxes and introduce yourself by your sexual interests. Rather than a "emotionally mature hookup app", I would dub it "Fetlife for people under 35". There's a certain group of people that prefers to define themselves by their sexuality these days. Good for them, I don't care. I don't think this is "emotionally mature" though nor is it ideal for a dating app. Yes sex is important, but no, it is not the first thing I want to know about you, nor is it something we need to be broadcasting to the world. In turn, many professionals on the app don't show their face because they don't want to be seen on Feeld, while others fill their profile with photos of them elaborately tied up in shibari. A weird dichotomy for sure, and I stopped using the app shortly after I started (there are barely any people on the app anyway, and I live in a major US city).
DaveFr 4y ago
> Looking ahead, Fulford said, Feeld might expand to connecting people in physical spaces and at events as well as online. “We don’t see ourselves just as a dating company,” he said but, rather, as “something that potentially looks like a media or network platform company.” It’s a nice idea, but making Feeld too much about figuring out who you are and less about already knowing might alienate a user base that is tired of having to explain itself. Its members just want to meet others who have already been to the rave, or the dungeon, or the dark room, or the play space, and who don’t need the rules of engagement to be spelled out. This is a company that in it's pre-Eternal-September era and might not realize it. I hope they figure out how to retain their magic.
- 0xBABAD00C 4y ago
  What should they do differently were they to realize it's post-Eternal-September?
  - DaveFr 4y ago
    If they are in a post-Eternal-September situation, they follow the Facebook.com path: grow at all costs, then coast and squeeze revenue until the last wave of users leave. (FB's TAM is "everyone", so it's lucrative. Most others have a smaller market). If they are in a pre-Eternal-September situation and they want to avoid Eternal September, that's different. Then, they should work to slow user growth, improve onboarding, and have some moderation. The goal is to integrate new users slowly, so they buy into the culture before they change it. It's difficult.
throwaway_oil 4y ago
I'm a heavy feeld user, loved the article. Author has some rose tint to their glasses, but feeld is excellent - at least in NYC. As with any dating app, local userbase is key, so other locations may be far worse. Some other commenters have doubts about "emotional maturity;" I think feeld encourages users to be their most authentic selves, and that takes some maturity. If you don't have it, and try to play normal dating games, you won't last there. AMA for a heavy user, I guess? I'm probably an 8, cis tall white man in his late 20s. Mostly looking for consistent hookups, mostly women.
falcolas 4y ago
The emotional maturity version of the Dunning-Kruger effect will eventually turn this into a cesspool of angry incels. “Finally, a place where I will be appreciated and stand out from those other morons.”
- kwertyoowiyop 4y ago
  We are in luck, angryincels.com is available! Let’s do a startup.
pwython 4y ago
> "choose from among twenty different categories of gender and sexuality." And just when I thought I was "emotionally mature" at 40, I can't help but giggle at that sentence. Are there really 20 different genders and such nowadays? Are these filters "kinks" or have I lost touch with the current state of identity labels?
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- at_a_remove 4y ago
  You want to really blow your mind, check out the identities at yaygender.net. Go through them and try to imagine people having common understandings of these selections such that information is communicated by which is chosen. What am I supposed to do with "woman" vs "womyn" vs "womon"? How about "differently-gendered" vs "metagender" vs "metamorph"? "Transgenderist" or "Trangenderalist"? Gender outlaw against gender pirate? Do these identities communicate or do they confuse? These aren't genders, they're portions of GUIDs.
gozmike 4y ago
This is the first article I read on feeld/3nder that really resonates with me. Dimo and Ana were the first paying clients of the last startup I co-founded, Smooch.io, that would go on to be acquired by Zendesk. I even had a chance to meet Dimo on a trip to London. Unlike many of the hundreds of other brash founders that we sold our platform to, this team was different. The level of maturity, emotionally and otherwise, that the pair demonstrated was astounding. They poured themselves into this product and its very much an artistic creation first and foremost. Using the app, you can sense that real people, with real feelings, expressed thoughtfulness and empathy like few other builders of the era. They've since moved on from Smooch/Zendesk, and I've moved on from it as well, but seeing their work covered here leaves me feeling really nostalgic for those days gone by. They (and their love for one another) really built one of the few remaining places left in the digital world that are delightfully special.
- gozmike 4y ago
  Funny story I'll pile on... One of the first places we showed our product was at a support software conference in vegas where we were invited to share a booth with a few other startups as part of an innovation thing. I had feeld (then called 3nder) running as a demo in the booth to showcase how our platform could create really cool mobile help experiences. One of the people I demo'd too went full fundamentalist Christian on me and asked why I would show him an application based on the devil's work, that it was sick and disgusting that I would be proud of 3nder's patronage of our services, and a bunch of other nonsense... I wonder sometimes if that man was actually on the app and worried his profile would show up due to the proximity :)
bradlys 4y ago
Title is kinda garbage. What Hinge is to OkCupid - Feeld is to FetLife. That's what I've gathered from the queer people in my life. I find these articles written by (mostly) women who get such easy access to sex to be a bit... cringey. It's often written in such a way that clearly shows a privilege that is basically completely unknown to them. Akin to being rich and being unaware most people can't just ask their parents for a new Mercedes. There's always some writing about a man or men but it's always about tall white men. This article is no different. It's just... cringey and completely unaware. I expect no different from a New Yorker article, tbh - as its entire employee base is this type of persona. (Blissfully unaware)
- david38 4y ago
  You are correct. Some young reasonably attractive woman “explores” and what a surprise? There are tons of guys willing to sleep with her, even under X, Y, Z conditions. Much of the publishing industry is filled with hopeful women backed by family money trying to break into the industry. For most it pays very little, but must confer some sort of status? Find your nitch, be bold, be aggressive, ???, profit?
- throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
  I'm a pretty average looking white guy and I'd say you are completely wrong in your assessment. Have you actually tried this? It's true that women get a lot more approaches a lot quicker then men. But this whole "oh no I'm a guy the world is against me" is nonsense. You need to seem interesting in some way.
  - bradlys 4y ago
    Of course I have. I’m an above average man in many ways but I’ve lived in Seattle and SF primarily for most of my “dating” years where men heavily outnumber women. Unfortunately add on - I am neither white nor tall. Nor muscular nor good looking. I am completely average in many ways superficially but well within the 1% in many others. I’m not sure if you live in the US but it’s incredibly competitive here for young men. You’re also in your 40s. So, your time might’ve been different as online dating wasn’t as prolific/normalized in your 20s as it was in my 20s. When I was in my 20s, close to 40% of people met through online dating. On top of this - sex for men in their 20s plummeted in my 20s while in yours - it didn’t suffer at all. Also - I take “average looking white guy” with a grain of salt. I’ve seen 6’4” models describe themselves as average in person and online.
usrn 4y ago
As someone who used to be a lot more promiscuous: I'm pretty sure hooking up is the opposite of emotional maturity. I love Seinfeld (the old TV show) because it actually does show this. The main characters (at least Seinfeld and Elaine) have this kind of superficial maturity but you pull them apart and they're actually very childish. The show ends with them and their friends in jail with more or less nothing to show for their lives. For what the show was it has a surprisingly strong moral lesson.
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_8j50 4y ago
Psychonaut,eco-sexual,digisexual. Lots of new words, I would love to learn about these people (not their sex stuff, but them as a person). The ability to "explore" like this and western sexuality in general, I wonder if it is a product of better resource scarcity (due to capitalism or whatever economic force)? Would this be possible under conditions of economic strain or poverty, I don't mean relative to others in a society but at a global scale. Food, health care, employment opportunities, time-saving technologies,etc... to the point where universal basic income is a serious topic. Does all this empower sexual exploration? I think so.
FooBarBizBazz 4y ago
Lol, within the first paragraph, we have the words "heteronormative", "prosecco", and a reference to 1Q84. This is a lifestyle ad-piece. And what a bullshit lifestyle! Does she not even know that 1Q84 is Haruki Murakami's worst book?

50 points by mitchbob 4y ago

Check the people she talked to in depth, and her: all female or femme-leaning in identity. I know it's not a "study" as such but there's a sampling bias going on there. I would like to hear from some ordinary, average guys on the app.

klipt 4y ago
I wonder if the ordinary, average guys realize they get more responses if they identify as ... not guys?
- at_a_remove 4y ago
  "Everyone, feel free to be yourself! Uh, but not you." That's the sort of idea where you realize if anyone involved had a sense of self-awareness they'd find the result painful, but instead they'll continue on, oblivious.

mitchbob 4y ago

Archived: https://archive.ph/0uUmN https://archive.ph/0uUmN

throw_xxx_rated 4y ago

Throwaway account for obvious reasons I'm on Feeld and wow the headline for article is a weird take. Compared to Tinder and Bumble there aren't many people (which isn't surprising) and it's very explicitly about non-vanilla sex, and I would never have thought that "emotionally mature" would characterize the people on it. I'm in my 40s and I have trouble finding people my age. It's ok if you want to find a rope bunny or something like that though. When I was in a relationship we tried it for threesomes and TBH had more luck with that on Tinder. Also the "cores" concept is just strange. Why did they choose the cities they did? In Australia you can see who is in Melbourne but not Sydney (And Sydney is kind of an iconic gay city, which has a lot of cross over into kink).

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throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
Having said that - while I remain critical of the headline - the article is quite good (hey it's a NewYorker article so it's long). I do think it reflects the author's experience a lot though. It doesn't reflect what I've seen when I use the app.
- throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
  Someone asked how it compares to FetLife but deleted their question. My response was: Many more swingers. I've never tried to use FetLife as a dating app. But in my city I recognize many people across the both (so yes a lot of people into kink, which often doesn't really overlap much with the swinger community).
majormajor 4y ago
My take on the "emotionally mature" after the article + your comment is "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla." Never used Feeld, not in the market at the moment, but I never saw anyone on Tinder who put any kinks up front.
- phkahler 4y ago
  >> "mature enough to come out and state what you want if you want something non-vanilla." That can be a sign of vulnerability, or something more along the lines of defiance. One is more mature, the other is quite the opposite.
superhnthrowlol 4y ago
Well clearly I need a throw away also. Also an Australian in late 40's. There was a golden age a while back using websites such as AMM for hookups and threesomes, and Fetlife was unusually great for kink. I basically just listed myself as a male into needle play (with equipment) and LOTS of girls actually came to me. I would get messages asking if my lab was real and when they could visit. Which is a completely contrast to anything you'd see today. Fetlife really died. The vast majority of female accounts have some variation of "if you'd like to talk to me more, subscribe to my Onlyfans". I opened my inbox today and clicked on the profiles of girls that messaged me years ago, they've all left the site, and you absolutely can't replicate that experience on Tinder.

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dvt 4y ago

Let me first say: impeccable article from The New Yorker. It's the only mainstream bastion of proper editing and spelling left (maybe The Economist, too). I don't think I've ever found a typo in their articles; as opposed to CNN/WaPo/NYT/FOX where I find typos and grammar errors routinely (even on their front pages). > Thursday. I describe it to my friends as “the grownup hookup app.” By “grownup,” I mean not only that its users are above a certain age but also that they favor a kind of maturity and decorum; by “hookup,” I mean that the app facilitates not romance but sex, broadly defined. It is not the place to find your “down-to-earth, no-drama girlfriend” or your “partner in crime.” How exactly does this translate into "emotional maturity?" Sounds like the writer is trying to ascribe some kind of moral superiority to enjoying non-vanilla casual sex. I mean, that's cool I guess, and no judgment, but from where I stand, dealing with bills, conflict resolution, changing diapers, attending PTA meetings, having to put kids through college, etc. probably requires way more "emotional maturity" than hooking up on a dating app. But maybe that's just me. > Not having a partner and not having kids may mean that you have more sporadic sexual encounters with people you do not know very well. I get that there's an agenda at play here (the very next sentence gets into abortion), but this is provably false. Young people are having less sex than ever[1]. In fact, many psychologists and sociologists are worried about a potential population bust. The root cause is unknown. [1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-ame...

mise_en_place 4y ago
It's more like it requires an emotional apathy or detachment. At least that's what I've heard from my friends who engage in such casual encounters.
babelfish 4y ago
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Invictus0 4y ago

I agree with throw_xxx_rated, very weird title. I tried Feeld and there are basically no vanilla people on it. You are pressed to fit yourself by one of the many new-age hyperspecific sexual orientations and fetish boxes and introduce yourself by your sexual interests. Rather than a "emotionally mature hookup app", I would dub it "Fetlife for people under 35". There's a certain group of people that prefers to define themselves by their sexuality these days. Good for them, I don't care. I don't think this is "emotionally mature" though nor is it ideal for a dating app. Yes sex is important, but no, it is not the first thing I want to know about you, nor is it something we need to be broadcasting to the world. In turn, many professionals on the app don't show their face because they don't want to be seen on Feeld, while others fill their profile with photos of them elaborately tied up in shibari. A weird dichotomy for sure, and I stopped using the app shortly after I started (there are barely any people on the app anyway, and I live in a major US city).

DaveFr 4y ago

> Looking ahead, Fulford said, Feeld might expand to connecting people in physical spaces and at events as well as online. “We don’t see ourselves just as a dating company,” he said but, rather, as “something that potentially looks like a media or network platform company.” It’s a nice idea, but making Feeld too much about figuring out who you are and less about already knowing might alienate a user base that is tired of having to explain itself. Its members just want to meet others who have already been to the rave, or the dungeon, or the dark room, or the play space, and who don’t need the rules of engagement to be spelled out. This is a company that in it's pre-Eternal-September era and might not realize it. I hope they figure out how to retain their magic.

0xBABAD00C 4y ago
What should they do differently were they to realize it's post-Eternal-September?
- DaveFr 4y ago
  If they are in a post-Eternal-September situation, they follow the Facebook.com path: grow at all costs, then coast and squeeze revenue until the last wave of users leave. (FB's TAM is "everyone", so it's lucrative. Most others have a smaller market). If they are in a pre-Eternal-September situation and they want to avoid Eternal September, that's different. Then, they should work to slow user growth, improve onboarding, and have some moderation. The goal is to integrate new users slowly, so they buy into the culture before they change it. It's difficult.

throwaway_oil 4y ago

I'm a heavy feeld user, loved the article. Author has some rose tint to their glasses, but feeld is excellent - at least in NYC. As with any dating app, local userbase is key, so other locations may be far worse. Some other commenters have doubts about "emotional maturity;" I think feeld encourages users to be their most authentic selves, and that takes some maturity. If you don't have it, and try to play normal dating games, you won't last there. AMA for a heavy user, I guess? I'm probably an 8, cis tall white man in his late 20s. Mostly looking for consistent hookups, mostly women.

falcolas 4y ago

The emotional maturity version of the Dunning-Kruger effect will eventually turn this into a cesspool of angry incels. “Finally, a place where I will be appreciated and stand out from those other morons.”

kwertyoowiyop 4y ago
We are in luck, angryincels.com is available! Let’s do a startup.

pwython 4y ago

> "choose from among twenty different categories of gender and sexuality." And just when I thought I was "emotionally mature" at 40, I can't help but giggle at that sentence. Are there really 20 different genders and such nowadays? Are these filters "kinks" or have I lost touch with the current state of identity labels?

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at_a_remove 4y ago
You want to really blow your mind, check out the identities at yaygender.net. Go through them and try to imagine people having common understandings of these selections such that information is communicated by which is chosen. What am I supposed to do with "woman" vs "womyn" vs "womon"? How about "differently-gendered" vs "metagender" vs "metamorph"? "Transgenderist" or "Trangenderalist"? Gender outlaw against gender pirate? Do these identities communicate or do they confuse? These aren't genders, they're portions of GUIDs.

gozmike 4y ago

This is the first article I read on feeld/3nder that really resonates with me. Dimo and Ana were the first paying clients of the last startup I co-founded, Smooch.io, that would go on to be acquired by Zendesk. I even had a chance to meet Dimo on a trip to London. Unlike many of the hundreds of other brash founders that we sold our platform to, this team was different. The level of maturity, emotionally and otherwise, that the pair demonstrated was astounding. They poured themselves into this product and its very much an artistic creation first and foremost. Using the app, you can sense that real people, with real feelings, expressed thoughtfulness and empathy like few other builders of the era. They've since moved on from Smooch/Zendesk, and I've moved on from it as well, but seeing their work covered here leaves me feeling really nostalgic for those days gone by. They (and their love for one another) really built one of the few remaining places left in the digital world that are delightfully special.

gozmike 4y ago
Funny story I'll pile on... One of the first places we showed our product was at a support software conference in vegas where we were invited to share a booth with a few other startups as part of an innovation thing. I had feeld (then called 3nder) running as a demo in the booth to showcase how our platform could create really cool mobile help experiences. One of the people I demo'd too went full fundamentalist Christian on me and asked why I would show him an application based on the devil's work, that it was sick and disgusting that I would be proud of 3nder's patronage of our services, and a bunch of other nonsense... I wonder sometimes if that man was actually on the app and worried his profile would show up due to the proximity :)

bradlys 4y ago

Title is kinda garbage. What Hinge is to OkCupid - Feeld is to FetLife. That's what I've gathered from the queer people in my life. I find these articles written by (mostly) women who get such easy access to sex to be a bit... cringey. It's often written in such a way that clearly shows a privilege that is basically completely unknown to them. Akin to being rich and being unaware most people can't just ask their parents for a new Mercedes. There's always some writing about a man or men but it's always about tall white men. This article is no different. It's just... cringey and completely unaware. I expect no different from a New Yorker article, tbh - as its entire employee base is this type of persona. (Blissfully unaware)

david38 4y ago
You are correct. Some young reasonably attractive woman “explores” and what a surprise? There are tons of guys willing to sleep with her, even under X, Y, Z conditions. Much of the publishing industry is filled with hopeful women backed by family money trying to break into the industry. For most it pays very little, but must confer some sort of status? Find your nitch, be bold, be aggressive, ???, profit?
throw_xxx_rated 4y ago
I'm a pretty average looking white guy and I'd say you are completely wrong in your assessment. Have you actually tried this? It's true that women get a lot more approaches a lot quicker then men. But this whole "oh no I'm a guy the world is against me" is nonsense. You need to seem interesting in some way.
- bradlys 4y ago
  Of course I have. I’m an above average man in many ways but I’ve lived in Seattle and SF primarily for most of my “dating” years where men heavily outnumber women. Unfortunately add on - I am neither white nor tall. Nor muscular nor good looking. I am completely average in many ways superficially but well within the 1% in many others. I’m not sure if you live in the US but it’s incredibly competitive here for young men. You’re also in your 40s. So, your time might’ve been different as online dating wasn’t as prolific/normalized in your 20s as it was in my 20s. When I was in my 20s, close to 40% of people met through online dating. On top of this - sex for men in their 20s plummeted in my 20s while in yours - it didn’t suffer at all. Also - I take “average looking white guy” with a grain of salt. I’ve seen 6’4” models describe themselves as average in person and online.

usrn 4y ago

As someone who used to be a lot more promiscuous: I'm pretty sure hooking up is the opposite of emotional maturity. I love Seinfeld (the old TV show) because it actually does show this. The main characters (at least Seinfeld and Elaine) have this kind of superficial maturity but you pull them apart and they're actually very childish. The show ends with them and their friends in jail with more or less nothing to show for their lives. For what the show was it has a surprisingly strong moral lesson.

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_8j50 4y ago

Psychonaut,eco-sexual,digisexual. Lots of new words, I would love to learn about these people (not their sex stuff, but them as a person). The ability to "explore" like this and western sexuality in general, I wonder if it is a product of better resource scarcity (due to capitalism or whatever economic force)? Would this be possible under conditions of economic strain or poverty, I don't mean relative to others in a society but at a global scale. Food, health care, employment opportunities, time-saving technologies,etc... to the point where universal basic income is a serious topic. Does all this empower sexual exploration? I think so.

FooBarBizBazz 4y ago

Lol, within the first paragraph, we have the words "heteronormative", "prosecco", and a reference to 1Q84. This is a lifestyle ad-piece. And what a bullshit lifestyle! Does she not even know that 1Q84 is Haruki Murakami's worst book?