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I don't think you've really experienced online abuse. If you get in an argument with someone and they start saying nasty things, then it's simple to disengage.
by calibas 4y ago
I don't think you've really experienced online abuse.
If you get in an argument with someone and they start saying nasty things, then it's simple to disengage. You just stop replying and you don't go back to the thread. In this scenario, your comment makes sense, but you should count yourself very lucky if this is the worst you've experienced.
Personally, I pissed off a cult leader and she sent her followers to harass me. They used email and social networks, among other methods, to send me regular messages accusing me of all sorts of horrible things. If I followed your suggestion of "stop reading them" it would mean I no longer check my email or social networks...
For those inexperienced with these matters, it may seem like I can just block the messages, but in many cases that's near impossible. A "professional" abuser knows all about VPNs and will just keep creating new email addresses.
- causi 4y agoNot a coordinated campaign like yours but I've been doxxed and had half a dozen death threats. A "professional" abuser knows all about VPNs and will just keep creating new email addresses. You had no luck with keyword filters? You have my sympathy.
- calibas 4y agoKeyword filters simply don't work unless the abuse follows a very specific pattern that legit messages do not. It's not an effective method of curtailing abuse.
- muyuu 4y agoI have, and he's right also, learn not to overexpose yourself with your real id online, also from 1990s internet 101 the idiotic model of the 2020s with everybody posting their entire private lives with their real names and profiles that have their mugs in circles, and then proceed to broadcast hot takes they're afraid to get feedback on - it doesn't work and it's stupid
- calibas 4y agoI'm not convinced the "solution" to abuse is to remain completely anonymous online.
- nprateem 4y agoIt's not just a solution to abuse, but also protection from nasty governments and good infosec
- concordDance 4y agoWhat's wrong with it as a solution?
- calibas 4y agoSeems a bit paranoid for one thing. Also, it's unfair and cruel to put the responsibility for preventing abuse onto the abused. The person engaging in dysfunctional behavior is the problem, not their victims. Sure, you can avoid being bullied by staying hidden all the time, and I guess that works for some people but it doesn't sit well with me.
- muyuu 4y agothe dysfunctional behaviour online is that of the 2020s, not the 1990s the draconian legislation attempts we're seen now are the govt's weaponisation of 2020s dysfunctional behaviour to shut down the free internet wholesale and substitute it with a heavily surveilled and censored alternative that actually benefits from the child-like narcissism of the 2020s