for programming, I totally agree. for science, it seems like it's a different story. there's numbers of famous teams of spouses who work side by side in the sam

for programming, I totally agree. for science, it seems like it's a different story. there's numbers of famous teams of spouses who work side by side in the same field/lab. universities will even find a faculty position for your spouse if they want you enough. I'm biased perhaps, but I think science is fundamentally more interesting and rewarding than doing engineering for a FAANG. (disclaimer: I work for a FAANG but on more and more pure math stuff.)