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I guess that depends on the context, I do not want a people around me that will just agree with everything I say and do, and in the context here we are talkin
by phpisthebest 4y ago
I guess that depends on the context, I do not want a people around me that will just agree with everything I say and do, and in the context here we are talking about a life choice I made (in this case not having children) as a failure... not that I am "failure, fool, or generally inferior person" I think those are different things.
lets change the context to something less divisive, say i was an Alcoholic and my Alcoholism was destroying my life would my "friend" be a friend if they continued to supply me with Whiskey and Beer or would they be a "friend" is they took me to task, told me as I fool, and a failure?
- s1artibartfast 4y agoI think that is a good point. Context and intent matter. Sometimes being a good friend means disagreement. That said, there is productive and unproductive disagreement. Similarly, there is also transient and permanent disagreement. There is also the matter of perspective. In the case of the alcoholic friend, there is a difference between viewing it as something that is preventing them from achieving their own goals versus your own personal code. I think the former is a much more compassionate view (and perhaps more productive). I think this is an interesting example because most people would agree that destroying your life with Alcoholism is a bad thing, so we both share the same bias. What if you had an alcoholic friend who judged you for not regularly drinking to excess? How does that change the logic in the example?