When you meet people with the goal of finding love, the other person will naturally distrust your intentions: How much of your interest is in them personally, a

When you meet people with the goal of finding love, the other person will naturally distrust your intentions: How much of your interest is in them personally, and how much of it is lust or the desire to not be alone? When you click with someone platonically first, the interest is much more trustworthy. You can't convince someone to break an addiction; The more you push, the more it hurts them and the more distance it creates between you. They'll even start lying to you just to keep the peace. Any desire to change must come from within, and must not be met with expectations or conditions. They need a comrade, not a guardian. There are some things you're better off not trying to control.