Your earlier comment is about an IT department "overwhelmed, overworked, under appreciated, and fed up with the BS" who also had no control over the patching in

Your earlier comment is about an IT department "overwhelmed, overworked, under appreciated, and fed up with the BS" who also had no control over the patching installs anyway, and didn't care, and your conclusion is ""What's our exposure here? Can it wait a few days?" would be a reasonable thing to ask." of them? I can't see that adding "now every single patch forever is up for argument" as likely to improve such a situation. Even in a competent and interested IT department, the change from "patch Tuesday, same time every month" to "now every patch is up for negotiation" seems like a non-trivial overhead, given that we assume it's desirable to install them all eventually. Exercising power for power's sake. One off asking "can we eat later today" is reasonable but if dinner is always inconvenient for someone then decide once "dinner is later" or "we eat separate dinners", don't have a dinnertime negotiation every day.