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"You might be a laugh, but you have a vibe where other people aren’t going to share their innermost personal stuff. They get a feeling that you’re not able to g
by throwyawayyyy 4y ago
"You might be a laugh, but you have a vibe where other people aren’t going to share their innermost personal stuff. They get a feeling that you’re not able to give it back."
Or, you know, rip the piss out of them for sharing anything that matters.
Anyone else find this piece curiously unreflective? There appears to be only one way in which men can interact with other men, drunken banter. It's a never-ending episode of Men Behaving Badly. And the answer, it turns out, is _not_ to try and go beyond what amounts to a juvenile way of interacting with people, but... be better at organising activities where that "belligerent way of occupying space" can happen?
- toyg 4y agoI think it's actually your comment that is unreflective. Obviously the "established" male approach must have some benefits, if it became dominant over the millennia; so the point is to find an equilibrium where it can continue to exist side by side with other approaches. Saying that it should just be obliterated from existence is unrealistic and unproductive.
- throwyawayyyy 4y agoThat begs the question: it assumes that that _is_ the "established" male approach. Moreover the premise of the article is that he's discovering that it is an approach that, increasinly, isn't working for him, and is a road to a lonely middle age.