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Well shit, he shouldn't have sex as much maybe? It's a very avoidable behavior. I in general do not understand why these dudes do these insane sexual things. I

by ddeeo 4y ago

Well shit, he shouldn't have sex as much maybe? It's a very avoidable behavior. I in general do not understand why these dudes do these insane sexual things. I always knew there were people out there who made sex a big part of their lifestyle, but group sex with double digit partners in the last month? Holy shit not only is that incredibly bizarre to most people, but it's unreasonable to suggest it can't be avoided. Is there just no monogamy in the gay male community?

causality0 4y ago
According to data from Okcupid, gay and straight people have about the same median number of partners. It's a small fraction of the gay community that is having just a ridiculous amount of sex.
- daenz 4y ago
  There may be a sampling bias from okcupid, for both demographics, since iirc okcupid is more about dating than it is hookups.
karencarits 4y ago
> Is there just no monogamy in the gay male community? Of course there is. There are also, for example, gay men who obstain from sex altogether for religious reasons. These group just doesn't get as much attention. But the distributions are a bit different and the tail of the distribution is longer. See for example https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/ Number of partners, last year [median, range]: * Heterosexual men: 1 (0–99) * Heterosexual women: 1 (0–7) * MSM (Urban Men’s Health Study): 4 (0–500) * MSM (Seattle MSM RDD): 2 (0–300) Number of partners, lifetime [median, range]: * Heterosexual men: 8 (1–99) * Heterosexual women: 6 (1–99) * MSM (Urban Men’s Health Study): 45 (0–9005)
daenz 4y ago
There seems to be a mindset among a large number of people that if a person's behaviors fall into certain socially "protected" categories, that they should be able to do whatever they want, with no consequences, or if there are consequences, they should be compensated for by the rest of society.

by ddeeo 4y ago

causality0 4y ago

According to data from Okcupid, gay and straight people have about the same median number of partners. It's a small fraction of the gay community that is having just a ridiculous amount of sex.

daenz 4y ago
There may be a sampling bias from okcupid, for both demographics, since iirc okcupid is more about dating than it is hookups.

karencarits 4y ago

> Is there just no monogamy in the gay male community? Of course there is. There are also, for example, gay men who obstain from sex altogether for religious reasons. These group just doesn't get as much attention. But the distributions are a bit different and the tail of the distribution is longer. See for example https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3334840/ Number of partners, last year [median, range]: * Heterosexual men: 1 (0–99) * Heterosexual women: 1 (0–7) * MSM (Urban Men’s Health Study): 4 (0–500) * MSM (Seattle MSM RDD): 2 (0–300) Number of partners, lifetime [median, range]: * Heterosexual men: 8 (1–99) * Heterosexual women: 6 (1–99) * MSM (Urban Men’s Health Study): 45 (0–9005)

daenz 4y ago

There seems to be a mindset among a large number of people that if a person's behaviors fall into certain socially "protected" categories, that they should be able to do whatever they want, with no consequences, or if there are consequences, they should be compensated for by the rest of society.