I have kind of the opposite problem from most. I tend to not be very social at work and avoid joining groups, cliques, etc. or making small talk. And it seems t

I have kind of the opposite problem from most. I tend to not be very social at work and avoid joining groups, cliques, etc. or making small talk. And it seems to be an imperative for some people to try and "draw me out of my shell", which inevitably results in their feelings being hurt because they can't (and possibly because I'm fairly direct or short with them).