If you have to give feedback - please please with cherry on top give it about what a person _does_ specifically on the team versus on _who they are._ (speaking

If you have to give feedback - please please with cherry on top give it about what a person _does_ specifically on the team versus on _who they are._ (speaking from a position of both having given personality feedback which I regret and being given feedback on being "abrasive", "difficult", "opinionated" and you name it what else)