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Not the original parent, but because you are tasking a literal child to have the ability to be able to understand extreme social nuance with an already limited
by SQueeeeeL 4y ago
Not the original parent, but because you are tasking a literal child to have the ability to be able to understand extreme social nuance with an already limited understanding of social situations. Children should be made aware of some of these dangers, but overall, most children won't have the psychological or social tools to be able to properly handle these issues, especially when the in-universe rewards are so massive (fame and popularity in Robolox is something children really crave, a sense of belonging is pretty core to human psychology). From my perspective, it's all around healthier to disengage in the platforms that enable such toxic behaviors to take place, especially when the platform creators are fiscally incentivized to turn a blind eye.
- darkerside 4y agoChildren aren't stupid. Or at least they can be made less stupid by teaching them. They are surprisingly perceptive, and by the time they can chat online, they have little trouble with social nuance in my experience.
- danielheath 4y agoIt's not a question of intellect; adolescents are emotionally undeveloped. It's extremely straightforward for a manipulative adult to find an emotion they are struggling with and offer them comfort. This is obviously easier to do with kids that aren't getting the support they need at home, but it's still not that hard to do with those that are thriving.
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- lostlogin 4y agoWhen this approach fails, do you lay any blame on the child?
- lmm 4y agoBlame is for people who've hurt others. My child suffering some painful consequences of their mistake doesn't hurt me (I feel upset about it, but that's on me).
- pjbeam 4y agoTotally agree, kids aren't stupid. They also aren't generally able to sense and avoid insidious intent from adults adept at playing socially reprehensible games. I try not to treat my kids like idiots but that doesn't mean letting wolves in the door either. Not that that can be perfectly prevented.
- voidfunc 4y agoThe way parents talk about about children these days is weird. I hung out in tons of sketchy and seedy places as kid growing up in the mid-90s with the internet at home and I did not turn into a train wreck. ...or maybe that's the reason I'm hanging out on HN with the rest of you as an adult.
- svachalek 4y agoI did too, but mid 90s internet was Disneyland in comparison. Phone phreaks and anarchists and warez rings aren't like the professional groomers recruiting for terrorists and pedophiles and slavers.
- pridkett 4y agoThat’s a nice story of personal bias. You survived, so todays kids should too, right? Well, times have changed and the creeps have gotten creepier and more organized. They have more channels, more ways to hide, more ways to collaborate, and more ways to do serious damage. As for the 80s and 90s? I also survived doing some stupid and shady things on BBSes and the internet. I don’t want children to have learn the lessons I learned the same way. I also know people who didn’t come out okay. Who didn’t have a parent or friend check in on them, and got in deep in bad stuff and ended up in prison or dead. Don’t try to cook up drugs in your kitchen using a random recipe on the internet, kids.
- hellomyguys 4y agoBeing online today as a kid is nothing like it was 25 years ago, especially considering you probably were online using the family computer on dial-up.
- andsoitis 4y agoAnd being a kid 25 years ago was nothing like it was 50 years ago.