I'd note that my attempt at "I'm not actually mad at you, but here's an explanation of why your current attitude is counterproductive" (with the obvious caveat

I'd note that my attempt at "I'm not actually mad at you, but here's an explanation of why your current attitude is counterproductive" (with the obvious caveat I may've been complete wrong) got flagged to death rather than argued with. Which is the original repeating pattern, I'm afraid :(