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You do realise it's absurd right? Why would you be an 'impostor' because you don't write blogs? Less than 1% of (programmers|mathematicians|physicists|etc) writ

You do realise it's absurd right? Why would you be an 'impostor' because you don't write blogs? Less than 1% of (programmers|mathematicians|physicists|etc) write blogs. Less 1% of people do public speaking, even less do it well. Less than 1% of people in any given field do noteworthy things that are recognised. I don't mean to pick on you or anything. I think you've written down what a lot of people feel, but it's kind of crazy to expect that of yourself. It's OK to just be OK.

_8j50 4y ago
I get what you are saying but it comes down to the relationship you have with yourself. I don't care about others opinions, in my own opinion I can't accept myself as just OK, even really good is not acceptable. "I was barely good enough at work and sucked at everything else" is not a good way to remember one's life in the end. To each his own, the imporant piece in my opinion is to not judge others by your own measuring stick or live your life trying to measure up to others to get their acceptance or approval. Every runner practices and runs to win the race. Every fighter also fights to win a championship. I realize a job isn't any of those but when you realize that ultimately a runner and a fighter both run and fight against themsleves, to be the best they can be and nothing more then maybe that is something we can all relate with.
- wingerlang 4y ago
  > Every runner practices and runs to win the race. Every fighter also fights to win a championship. This is definitely not true.
- denkmoon 4y ago
  Yep, fair enough. As you say, to each his own. I would argue that a life spent believing you're not good enough is also not a good way to live, but that's a tradeoff for each individual to make for themselves. Be kind to yourself :) FWIW, I struggle to relate to "competers". I do things because they make me fulfilled (or put food on the table), not to "win" or be the best at something. I don't think it's something everyone can relate to.
- Jensson 4y ago
  > I don't care about others opinions, in my own opinion I can't accept myself as just OK "I'm not better than everyone else but I think I should be" is not impostor syndrome. You don't see yourself as an impostor, wanting to push yourself hard to achieve more is not impostor syndrome. If you ran a very popular blog and still felt you couldn't write blog posts then that would be impostor syndrome. If you had published a lot of papers and still felt you couldn't make something noteworthy then that would be impostor syndrome. But feeling bad over not being able to do those things when you haven't done them then that isn't impostor syndrome at all.
  - _8j50 4y ago
    Yup, that is the distinction I wanted to make as well. When correcting for imposter syndrome we shouldn't overcorrect and tolerate mediocrity unless we are also ok with mediocrity or under achievement.
- asta123 4y ago
  "Amor fati"

_8j50 4y ago

I get what you are saying but it comes down to the relationship you have with yourself. I don't care about others opinions, in my own opinion I can't accept myself as just OK, even really good is not acceptable. "I was barely good enough at work and sucked at everything else" is not a good way to remember one's life in the end. To each his own, the imporant piece in my opinion is to not judge others by your own measuring stick or live your life trying to measure up to others to get their acceptance or approval. Every runner practices and runs to win the race. Every fighter also fights to win a championship. I realize a job isn't any of those but when you realize that ultimately a runner and a fighter both run and fight against themsleves, to be the best they can be and nothing more then maybe that is something we can all relate with.

wingerlang 4y ago
> Every runner practices and runs to win the race. Every fighter also fights to win a championship. This is definitely not true.
denkmoon 4y ago
Yep, fair enough. As you say, to each his own. I would argue that a life spent believing you're not good enough is also not a good way to live, but that's a tradeoff for each individual to make for themselves. Be kind to yourself :) FWIW, I struggle to relate to "competers". I do things because they make me fulfilled (or put food on the table), not to "win" or be the best at something. I don't think it's something everyone can relate to.
Jensson 4y ago
> I don't care about others opinions, in my own opinion I can't accept myself as just OK "I'm not better than everyone else but I think I should be" is not impostor syndrome. You don't see yourself as an impostor, wanting to push yourself hard to achieve more is not impostor syndrome. If you ran a very popular blog and still felt you couldn't write blog posts then that would be impostor syndrome. If you had published a lot of papers and still felt you couldn't make something noteworthy then that would be impostor syndrome. But feeling bad over not being able to do those things when you haven't done them then that isn't impostor syndrome at all.
- _8j50 4y ago
  Yup, that is the distinction I wanted to make as well. When correcting for imposter syndrome we shouldn't overcorrect and tolerate mediocrity unless we are also ok with mediocrity or under achievement.
asta123 4y ago
"Amor fati"