Maybe focus less on the 'image problem' and more on building an embodied internal sense of joy and wonder. Being a person worth getting to know goes a long way

Maybe focus less on the 'image problem' and more on building an embodied internal sense of joy and wonder. Being a person worth getting to know goes a long way to finding someone. You can possess more of a spark of attraction by believing yourself to be worthy of a mate. Also doing away with the framing you have on physical attractiveness may help. I would suggest putting that 50k into yoga and improv training and a relationship counselor to unwind any buried issues you may have lurking that are creating 'leaky energy'. Wanting overmuch the thing you don't have sends exactly the opposite message you're trying to. Desperation reeks.