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Hey mate, as it takes courage to open up like that, I congratulate you for taking that step. Because you said you are losing the drive, I strongly recommend to

Hey mate, as it takes courage to open up like that, I congratulate you for taking that step. Because you said you are losing the drive, I strongly recommend to work from within so that you regain your drive, confidence, mojo, whatever the inner thing that will make you wake up with the desire of conquering the world. Before spending those 50k, what do you think about joining a gym, maybe hire a coach to help you lose some weight and get into a better shape? Regular workout will boost key hormones in your body, ultimately leading to increase in your drive. I think you can do it man. Don’t give up and stay strong! Book recommendation: You Can’t Hurt Me - David Goggins

bradlys 4y ago
I’m 5’10” and 150lb - weight loss isn’t the issue. Body composition and gaining muscle mass is all I need to do. (I mean - gain a few inches of height would be nice but I’m not willing to go that far) Surgery would help with facial issues. (I’m okay but not good) The rest being figuring out an image that sells well to modern high earning women is what I’d need help with. My image currently definitely isn’t pulling them out of the woodwork to find me.
- ricopags 4y ago
  Maybe focus less on the 'image problem' and more on building an embodied internal sense of joy and wonder. Being a person worth getting to know goes a long way to finding someone. You can possess more of a spark of attraction by believing yourself to be worthy of a mate. Also doing away with the framing you have on physical attractiveness may help. I would suggest putting that 50k into yoga and improv training and a relationship counselor to unwind any buried issues you may have lurking that are creating 'leaky energy'. Wanting overmuch the thing you don't have sends exactly the opposite message you're trying to. Desperation reeks.
  - bradlys 4y ago
    Except that with online dating your point is moot. When is the last time you were single?

bradlys 4y ago

I’m 5’10” and 150lb - weight loss isn’t the issue. Body composition and gaining muscle mass is all I need to do. (I mean - gain a few inches of height would be nice but I’m not willing to go that far) Surgery would help with facial issues. (I’m okay but not good) The rest being figuring out an image that sells well to modern high earning women is what I’d need help with. My image currently definitely isn’t pulling them out of the woodwork to find me.

ricopags 4y ago
Maybe focus less on the 'image problem' and more on building an embodied internal sense of joy and wonder. Being a person worth getting to know goes a long way to finding someone. You can possess more of a spark of attraction by believing yourself to be worthy of a mate. Also doing away with the framing you have on physical attractiveness may help. I would suggest putting that 50k into yoga and improv training and a relationship counselor to unwind any buried issues you may have lurking that are creating 'leaky energy'. Wanting overmuch the thing you don't have sends exactly the opposite message you're trying to. Desperation reeks.
- bradlys 4y ago
  Except that with online dating your point is moot. When is the last time you were single?