You're definitely not the only one who struggles with this. I've tried a lot of different approaches for what to do during the meeting, but tbh what I've settle

You're definitely not the only one who struggles with this. I've tried a lot of different approaches for what to do during the meeting, but tbh what I've settled on is: 1. Avoid meetings that I'm not going to get value from OR am unlikely to add (sufficient) value to. 2. In some meetings I'm going to add more value by facilitating, etc., than by just saying whatever's on my mind. For 1: I decline a lot more meetings than I used to. Sometimes it's a straight decline, sometimes I'll email the organizor or other people who will be attending and say, "I don't think I have a ton to contribute, but ping me if you need me to jump in," sometimes I'll decline and suggest meeting to provide feedback offline or in a smaller meeting if I actually have suggestions on the topic, etc. For 2: sometimes you can't get out of going to these meetings. :) If I don't have anything to contribute on the topic of the meetings, taking notes (usually just to share with people on my team who couldn't attend... hopefully the organizer has planned on taking notes as well but :shrug:) or helping ensure that quieter people get a chance to speak is still a way to add value to the meeting without being on top of the subject matter. Edit: one nice thing about these strategies is that you can apply them regardless of the reason/blame for not following these meetings. It works the same whether it's complete BS or something you really "should" be up to speed on already.