How is it disingenuous or a scam? If you are paying to talk to someone, you know there is no real connection. If there was a real connection you wouldn’t have t

How is it disingenuous or a scam? If you are paying to talk to someone, you know there is no real connection. If there was a real connection you wouldn’t have to pay. So clearly you know you are buying something pretend, so where is the scam?