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I have a sibling who is constantly reminding me to 'appreciate the wins' and give myself credit for accomplishments. I need this reminder, because as soon as I

I have a sibling who is constantly reminding me to 'appreciate the wins' and give myself credit for accomplishments. I need this reminder, because as soon as I complete a task these days, I immediately forget about it and begin compulsively obsessing over everything else that needs attention. My to-do list will never, ever be finished. I will never, ever be good enough. I see far more that is wrong/bad about my situation than what is right/good. It wasn't always this way. I used to be able to bask in the glory of an achievement for at least a little while. But after going through some rough times, my mind has somehow been trained to be constantly looking ahead to the next problem, always fearing the worst. I'm not sure how to turn it off beyond heavy self medication and sleeping.

cupofpython 4y ago
If you are currently living paycheck to paycheck this is understandable. Something that helped me out was filling out a dedicated digital calendar with actions actually done. First entry each day is usually the hours i slept, for example. I'll lump things together to try to make entries fit at least half an hour, preferably an hour+, so im not tediously filling out a calendar all day. A little backwards to how calendars usually get used, but being able to open it up and see where all my time went helped me feel better about the never ending to-do list. I started seeing the sea of to-dos as an opportunity landscape that I could mine in order to improve the things i see marked down on my "actual" calendar. when i make an entry i am proud of, i see it every time i make a new entry for a little bit. i am able to continue being productive with a clear head most of the time; while compounding that good feeling each time i make an entry; which is almost always between tasks and a good time to bask in it a little bit.
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cupofpython 4y ago

If you are currently living paycheck to paycheck this is understandable. Something that helped me out was filling out a dedicated digital calendar with actions actually done. First entry each day is usually the hours i slept, for example. I'll lump things together to try to make entries fit at least half an hour, preferably an hour+, so im not tediously filling out a calendar all day. A little backwards to how calendars usually get used, but being able to open it up and see where all my time went helped me feel better about the never ending to-do list. I started seeing the sea of to-dos as an opportunity landscape that I could mine in order to improve the things i see marked down on my "actual" calendar. when i make an entry i am proud of, i see it every time i make a new entry for a little bit. i am able to continue being productive with a clear head most of the time; while compounding that good feeling each time i make an entry; which is almost always between tasks and a good time to bask in it a little bit.

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